Are you still compatible?
The "housewife" title's a misnomer, as only three—Ramona, Jill and Alex—are actually married and Suzy Homemaker-style housewives they are not. But, Season Two of the show's been aflurry with relationship activity: the Countess divorcing, Bethenny on the prowl andevery "wife" tripping over herself for the chance to share dating tips. Here, we've created a Real Housewives report card with grades based on their own relationships and/or the love advice they dole out to others (er, Bethenny).
She had a tattoo that read "I Love Beards." Men were immediately drawn to her saucy way of talking. But beneath her sprite, pixie-haricut exterior was a twentysomething woman with a criminal mind who was listed on a Most-Wanted list, reports Doree Shafrir for the New York Observer.
While scouring the web for the latest in dating advice we were lured into CNN's roundup of dating do's and don'ts informed by three matchmakers. In reading through the article we discovered that quite possibly, according to this list, we rank among the worst daters of the land. Here's why.
After checking out ConjugalHarmony.com, a mock online dating site feigning to connect prisoners with those on the outside, we gave this phenomenon some closer inspection. The result? There are clearly a bunch of things wrong with dating a prisoner... but there are also some potential perks.
While we know our society is ripe with stereotypes, and it would be naive and unrealistic to think its inhabitants don't carry those around. Rather, we just hope for a day when a blogger like Funky Brown Chick won't have to write a list titled How To Date A Black Woman to quiet all those who incessantly ask her. 1.) Ask her out. 2.) Don't pretend you're black. 3.) Be truthful. 4.) Be open-minded. 5.) See her as a woman first.
Is clumsy dancing grounds for automatic romantic elimination? Yes, according to Dr. Pam Spurr, a UK-based relationship expert. In her article for the Times Daily, she advises readers to "beware of dancing, or the display of any other behavioral oddities, when you first meet."
"I believe the lack is in the cheater. It is not the marriage or the spouse. There is a hole in the cheater and that is their responsibility to fill or ask for what is needed. There is never a reason to commit adultery. How abut leaving, how about honesty with the self and the spouse? How about vows, communication? The same steps can be taken without the affair. ie. getting needs met. The action is not taking responsibility for oneself. Insight and personal growth is without the cheating and profound hurt for all which follows. The pain never goes away entirely. Just say NO, like and adult." -kwd (Anonymous user)
We'll preface this by saying: This is not hard science. And it's not based on a research study, either. Rather, we've soaked up this advice in casual conversations during visits with friends (informal polling, one might say). Women told us about the silent observations they make in early-stage dating. Yes, we know, sneaky. But actions speak volumes and men are likely doing the same exact thing.
In the months after divorcing my wife, my weeks were bifurcated. Half the week, I was a single father working hard to provide a stable home for my children in the midst of an unstable time. The other half I was a man on his own trying to navigate dating for the first time in my life. Prior to being married, relationships had grown organically out of friendships rather than being the result of formal dates with women I'd met online. Just as I was becoming more comfortable with my new life, I discovered that what I thought to be a hemorrhoid was actually a tumor in my rectum. Luckily there was good hope for a cure, but the treatment would be painful, last nearly a year and leave me with a permanent colostomy.