The New Year is off to a bittersweet start for Neenah Pickett. The New Jersey media consultant, 43, spent all of 2009 searching for love and not finding it. Still, Pickett emerged with hope and pride intact. At her Web site 52 Weeks 2 Find Him, she chronicled her dozens of dates and introduction to online dating and social networking sites—her message being that finding the love of your life should take work. "I did not put any effort into dating and went on two first dates in 14 years," she said of her past approach. "I thought, 'If I give all my effort like I do in my career and other areas of my life, will that make a difference?'"
At the beginning of the month, blogger Lauren Leto wrote up a hilarious list of stereotypes, based upon the authors people most love to read. It's insulting, but we can't help nodding our heads and chortling because—you know what?—we judge others based on their writing abilities and book choices as well, especially when we're considering spending a lot of quality time with them in the future. Some prosal faux pas to avoid when it comes to the literal language of love?
Now love interests are texting/IMing/emailing, and, good lord, Facebooking each other. There are so many opportunities to be misunderstood! If I've learned anything from sex scandals, it's that texting somebody you're hoping to sleep with can be dangerous.
OK, so the guys aren't lining up around the block, and perhaps you find yourself at home—in front of the television. Rest assured, there are plenty of single guys on TV to sink your teeth into. So grab the remote, settle in, and find a great guy that will never cancel on you (um, unless the network steps in…). Sunday: Patrick Jane, The Mentalist (CBS, 9 PM). Played by Simon Baker, Jane is a weird, quirky never-plays-by-the-rules kind of guy who serves as a consultant to California Bureau of Investigation. He's like Monk—but extremely attractive. Monday: Damon Salvatore, Vampire Diaries (The CW, 9PM). Everyone seems to want to date his brother, but we're more interested in the dark, brooding (and sometimes evil) older sibling. Vampires Make Better Boyfriends
The year's best date movies. We had to see them in theaters. Now, as these movies are slated to start appearing on DVD, we're itching to watch them again, this time cozied up on the couch with our best guy or gal. Check out our list and tell us what films we may have missed.
Too lazy to leave the house to find love? A new dating site assigns you a virtual body that does all the work. Named after Amsterdam's Red Light District, RedLightSocialCenter.com, hopes to take the online nice-to-meet you experience one step further by assigning users a body and a menu of racy date activities.
When it comes to niceness, church-going guys might be the new boy next door. Chances are, if you overlook the negative media image and peek into the next Sunday morning service, you'll find someone who encompasses the following qualities: He uses clean language, he's consistent, he's not promiscuous. Sold yet? Read on for more.
You can't score the soul mate or paycheck without that first meet-and-greet. While some glide through this necessary evil with straight-A finesse, others bumble along a path of C-worthy mediocrity producing mixed results. Enter our first-date study guide for men.