Last night, Melanie Gorman of YourTango and Dating Makeover Coach Kira Sabin teamed up with Rachel Greenwald—the author of Have Him at Hello—for the third telechat in our Girls' Night In teleseries. After putting on our jammies and pouring some wine, we settled in as Gorman and Sabin grilled Greenwald on what we all wanted to know most: Why didn't he call?
Picture this: It's the second course of an exquisite meal on your second date with an exquisite guy. From his first Match.com wink you thought to yourself, "he seems too good to be true" but, lo and behold, the real-life version measured up to his digital one. As you take in every one of his charming words, mesmerized by the way his lips wrap around his wine glass, you drift into fantasyland thinking, "Wow, he would make an amazing softball coach to our kids. I wonder if he's available the second weekend of June to go to my cousin's wedding. He's a guy I would give up my last name for." But you know what he's thinking? He's thinking, "I wonder if my roommate is home. Man, her cleavage is hot. We should probably switch from wine to liquor so she doesn't get sleepy and pass out on my sofa." His thoughts are nothing like yours... and as much as we hate to admit it, given how well you know each other (and his testosterone levels), his head is probably the one that's on straight.
Five ways couples can spend their tax returns together. According to a report by USAToday.com, tax refunds are up by 10 percent this year, with estimates at around $3,036 for the average American. We're going to advise that all of you be responsible and spend a good three-quarters of that on something useful (paying off debt, adding to your IRA, etc.) But the other quarter? Why not spend it on a fun date night, sexy gift or travel with your main squeeze.
Few phrases are more easily misinterpreted than "We should hang out sometime." Such a simple statement only summons countless questions: First, is it an invitation or a polite suggestion? What does he mean by hang out? Does he mean hang out as pals or as something more? What was that tone of voice? What does he want us to do together? While it's a little awkward to ask someone directly whether or not we were just asked on a date, it can be even more embarrassing to misunderstand someone's intentions when you're out on the date (or non-date) itself.
Unvarnished.com, a user generated work review site that's still in beta, is kind of like the sleazy little sister to Linkedin.com. The site aims to help out employers with written reviews by co-workers of a person's actual performance on the job. Could this ruin a person's career and love life?
You knows the scenario, you meet somebody new, finagle a first and last name, go home, let it gel and then your computer screws it all up. "Find out more!" it hisses "C'mon. Don't you want to...google?" To google or not to google a date? 4 guidelines to follow.
Dating expert Evan Marc Katz answers a question from Ask YourTango, where readers seek out advice on love and relationships. In this segment, Evan helps a woman identify a common dating mistake: telling a guy too early in the relationship that you are interested in long-term commitment. For more on Evan Marc Katz, visit evanmarckatz.com. If you have your own relationship conundrum that needs to be solved, head on over to http://www.yourtango.com/questions.
The authors of Undateable—a compendium of 311 things men do, say or wear that renders them... well... undateable—interviewed "hundreds of smart, funny, normal women" in an effort to pin down the top red flags and deal breakers men can be guilty of. Flipping through, however, we began to wonder if the average woman was rendering herself undateable... simply by being so judgy.
There's nothing quite like feeling a spark of attraction between you and someone you just met. Lately though, we've been wondering whether it's better to date a friend, or at least somebody we've known longer than just a couple of weeks, and who knows more about us than just our name and phone number. Sure, the transition from friend-to-boyfriend might feel a little sticky at first, but here are five benefits that overrule the awkwardness.
We all know a girl who says she's always been attracted to other women but has never really done anything about it, save the occasional bar make-out or session spent watching girl-on-girl porn. So why don't more women act on it?
They say it is better to give than to receive. When 'they' means real-live scientists, it must be true! A recent study gathered 150 women and 155 men and asked them to rank the attractiveness of various people's dating profiles. Profiles that revealed volunteer activities, altruism and all-around generosity were ranked as more attractive than neutral and non-generous-seeming people.
There comes a time in every girl's life where we find ourselves in a heavy (but not so hot) sexual situation. Namely, we just don't want to do it. At times this mysterious anti-sex aversion doesn't make any kind of logical sense. We'll rationalize that he smells fine, has bought us five dinners and seems to be in decent shape, so surely we should want to sleep with him, right? Yet the harsh reality? Nothing would make us happier then to read a book alone fully clothed in our own apartment—and we'd like to leave now. While our convictions might be strong, some of us ladies have an annoying tendency to bend our own wishes to mesh more easily with his. Our motives for doing this are two-fold, we're empathetic, want to protect his ego and we'd like a harmonious post-date atmosphere. Sex Does A Body Good Here are 6 no-fail tips that won't make him feel unsexy.
These days, small talk isn't enough to determine if someone is into you, but you can rely on more innate signs based on a person's body language. Sure, a big, wide smile is a good starting point, but there are other telltale signs that can also tip you off as to whether your date is into you.