Unavailable men love you but available, single men don't. There's a pretty simple reason. I have many coaching clients who tell me that they have great friendships with men but don't get asked out very often; if at all. They are dating in their 40s, 50s and beyond, and this has been a pattern for them throughout their lives. This "married men love me but I can't get a date" situation was the story of my life before I married at 47. Looking back at my experience, as well as that of my clients, I can see these two scenarios: 1. You talk to men and they seem to like you, but none ask you out.
DATE LIKE A GROWNUP
Good communication proves invaluable when dating for attracting and meeting guys...especially the right guys. It's also plays a key role in developing and maintaining fulfilling relationships. One of the most important ways I support my coaching clients is by helping them communicate well with men. Online or offline, good communication requires certain knowledge and skill. It's a bit of an art, actually.
Do women plan to find themselves in relationships with men who don't take their wants or needs into consideration? I'm going to assume the answer is "no." So I have to ask: Why would you date a man who doesn't care what you want and need? Two of my private coaching clients are struggling with the notion of communicating their needs and desires to the men they date. Most of my clients have this challenge. I know I did.
Successful dating is about being your authentic self, not hiding behind who you THINK you should be. I hear women describe themselves in the same way over and over again, and I bet you can identify with it, too. "I'm generally a very friendly, confident gal...unless I'm in the company of a single man—especially one I'm attracted to. In that case I turn into mush."
So often I hear clients say they're sure that they're "defective," which causes them to not be dating material. But one client recently had a revelation, noting, “I realized I'm not 'wrong,' but instead that I’m doing something wrong.” Bingo. The majority of women who come to me for help with dating and relationships lack confidence. Most are sure something is wrong with them. What else would explain why they are still single at this time in their lives?