To Watch Video Click Here I had a disappointment today. I blew an opportunity to do well at something that was super important to me. I was struggling to find a way to fix it…to make it right. So I thought: What would I tell another sister to do in this situation? I came up with the answer that worked for me, and I moved on.
DATE LIKE A GROWNUP
To Watch Video Click Here Ungrateful children. Mortgage that’s killin’ you. Surgical scars. Chronic health problems…these are all realities of life after 40. Let’s face it: we’ve been around a while. We have “stuff!” When you’re dating it’s important to share it at the right time in the right way. Say it wrong or tell him too early or too late, and you may scare away a good man.
Last weekend was my live event in Los Angeles: Mastering the Art of Magnetizing Men. During this two-day event I gave women tons of advice and step-by-step tips to help them attract quality men so they could finally meet their loving lifetime partner. If you’re familiar with my teaching and writing, you know that I frequently talk about “the good guys.” These are the only men we at Date Like a Grownup care about. You should always try to meet these guys, especially if you’re dating after 40!
To Watch Video Click Here What do you do when a man asks you out and you aren’t interested? Are you worried about hurting his feelings? I get this question quite frequently because, after all, we want to please men, right? Here are my simple tips for how to say “no” to a guy you don’t want to see again (don’t worry…he can take it) AND how to say no to a guy you DO want to see….but he’s just doing something that kinda bugs you.
To Watch Video Click Here Were you at last Friday’s Grownup Girls’ Night Out Live Man Panel? I had three men — ages 40s, 50s and 70s – generously share their thoughts and feelings about what attracts them to women, what to do on dates, how to tell if a man is into you…and much more. It was spectacular.
To Watch Video Click Here Do you feel like you’re in a bit of a rut? Sometimes, especially when we’re older and haven’t dated for a while, we can start feeling bored, boring or invisible when it comes to men. I recorded this video to help you shake things up! With very little effort you can start feeling more beautiful, more confident and more like a woman who really wants love in her life. That, girlfriend, is exactly what attracts men!
If you are over 40 and dating, it is extremely likely that you have something about your past or your present you’re afraid to share when you meet new men. As I talked about in my last Grownup Girls’ Night Out, there is a good time AND a good way to talk about your “baggage.”
After a particularly painful break up or divorce, it’s crucial that you take the time to grieve and heal from the hurt. You have to learn to accept the separation and work on yourself, so when you DO reenter the dating world, you do so in a positive and constructive way, unburdened by any past baggage and poised to build a relationship that will withstand the test of time.
A single man I know once said: If a woman I'm interested in doesn’t seem to love herself, why should I love her...and trying to convince her that she's great would be too f---ing exhausting. When a man meets this kind of woman he may be attracted initially, but after figuring out that she is a project (one he doesn't care to take on), he will soon disappear. Your phone won't ring after the first or second date because if you're not keen on yourself, a good man takes that as a signal to run.
All too often we tend to get in our own ways, especially when it comes to dating. From our preferred checklist of qualities we're seeking in a partner to our pet peeves, remaining too comfortable within our own bubble could make it difficult to attract the right man. It isn't always easy to change or step outside of our comfort zones but if you tend to have a reputation for being picky, hard to please or even "too girly," chances are a change of pace could be just what the doctor ordered.
I know I sound like a broken record about the benefits of dating online, especially if you are single and over 40. I’m going to continue to nag you about this because I want what you want: for you to find the man of your dreams, and to never let each other go. Getting online is the best way to make that happen.
I remember in high school the very distinct feeling that I would never understand men. The boys I had dated long-term in both high school and college sent me such conflicting messages that I truly believed men simply didn't have emotions. Not like women did, anyway. After all, how can you tell someone you love them one day, and then blow them off to party with your friends the next?
You know the story: You go out on a first date, have a great time, feel good chemistry, and discover you have so much in common. He tells you he likes you and wants to see you again. You get a little tingly…even breathless. You start fantasizing about your next date, or two, or three. You have a feeling you haven’t had in ages: hope! Maybe it will happen for you, and maybe this is your last first date!
I read this quote recently: I love that feeling of being in love, the effect of having butterflies when you wake up in the morning. That is special. ~ Jennifer Aniston I love her, and no offense meant, but how has that butterfly-thing been working for Jen so far?
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My Dad died. There…I said it out loud. Even though I was by his side and saw him take his very last breath, it’s been hard to believe he’s gone forever. F-o-r-e-v-e-r. I wanted to write this article for Thanksgiving so I could publicly thank him and show my gratitude. How trite, I thought. It doesn’t do him justice. So I write now. On a dreary Friday in November. Just another day like every single day since October 2 when I think of him and wish he were here.