How much does your religion guide your attitudes towards the opposite sex and your decisions on your choice of a partner? As a South Asian Muslim, my faith has shaped my attitudes towards men, dating and marriage from a young age. Since I was ten years old living in Westchester County, NY my mom has been drilling this mantra into my head, “You are a Muslim and you will not date.”
So Shaun White freakin' killed it last night with his twists and turns. And, in the end, the Olympics beat out American Idol in ratings. But forget the Olympics. Just for a moment. We know what you really want to know about Canada: Is there love across the border? And, if so, what does it look like? We dove into the dating and mating habits of the exotic Canadian species (translation: talked to youngsters who've lived in British Columbia, Alberta, Ontario and Quebec) and dug up a few anthropological gems.
This is why I always thought it'd be impossible to seriously date someone with whom I didn't share an equal level of fluency in at least one language. Idiomatic intimacy is important to me. I'm a writer. I like my conversations snappy and tangled with random references. I am also incredibly impatient. But eight months ago I met this guy from Paris who lives in New York. He was wicked smart and beautiful and treated me like a goddess. He also said things like, "Where iz zee restaurant? I'm so hungry I might pass away." Hmm. I figured we'd make sweet love a few times and move on. One date turned into 10, though, and now he's my boyfriend. Never in a million years did I think it would work out so well. Here's why.
Ross Douthat wrote an interesting Op-Ed piece in the The New York Times titled 'The Way We Love Now' which analyzes the state of love, marriage and romantic contentment in 2009. Douthat wonders if we as a society have morphed into a culture of bed-hopping, cheating hearts and sexless, impossibly unsatisfied curmudgeons.