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Each week at Traditional Love we bring you the best links around the web on love, marriage, family and all things related. This week we bring you links on fatherhood, cheating and how to be a happy wife. Research shows that when it comes to marriage, the old model still makes wives happy. [Mercator]
On my sixteenth birthday my dad gave me an abstinence ring. It was yellow gold that wrapped around my finger into the shape of a small heart. "This is to remind you to stay pure until you get married," he said when I put it on. Secretly, I thought the ring was ugly.
All these shows have one thing in common: constantly maxing out the drama to get the highest ratings. But this comes at a price: whether it's getting the latest Gucci shoes or the handsome pilot with a heart of gold, these shows constantly show people behaving at their worst. They usually ensure that there's plenty of booze to loosen tongues, and plenty of drama—real or artificial—to keep the show moving. But at the end of the day, are those models of behavior we want people to emulate?
This week, I talked about letting your spouse cheat. Once, I thought my husband was cheating, because he was being really nice and doing the dishes and that's when I decided that if he was cheating, it was totally worth it. Maybe every relationship needs a little guilt to remind you both to be nice to one another.
In our relationship, I am the cleaner. I love to wash the floors and am known to follow Dave around the house with a broom and dust pan. In times of stress, I relax by pouring a glass of wine and scrubbing the living heck out of the bathtub. So, when I see the socks on the floor, I don't see socks on the floor. I see a sign, a sign that says, "I don't value your efforts to keep the house clean. You are my slave!" And it blinks over my husbands head in bright orange neon lights and that's when I start wondering where exactly I stashed my B.B. gun.
Our relationships with our fathers is one of our first and most important relationships and how we relate to our father's is often a defining factor in our lives. According to the 2009 U.S. Census Bureau 1 in 3 children live apart from their father. Children who grow up fatherless are more likely to be poor, turn to drugs and commit crime. In response to the growing number of fatherless children in the U.S. President Obama launched a new program that is designed to raise awareness of the value of fatherhood. The new site, Fatherhood.gov is designed to give fathers, policymakers, and researchers information and advice on fatherhood. But the big question is whether this site will have an impact on the father-child relationship?
This week, Proposition 8 was ruled unconstitutional. And while some may cheer and some may shake their fists, the reality is that this week marks a huge change for marriage in America. How do you think this week's ruling will change traditional marriage in America? We'd love to hear your opinion. Without further ado, here are this week's links.
Every week, we here at Traditional Love bring you our favorite love, marriage and family links from around the Web. This week, we read about fighting, mother-in-laws, being a married college student and more. Did we miss your favorite story of the week? Let us know in the comments. Fighting can actually make your marriage stronger. And if that's true, my marriage is tough as nails. [CNN] One of your most important relationships is your relationship with your partner's family, which isn't always the smoothest of rides (understatement). But what happens when you bad-mouth your mother-in-law on the internet?* [Lemondrop]
Children are most definitely a blessing. They require a substantial investment of our time, attention and resources, but return joy that can’t be measured. However, parents must not lose their relationship in the midst of the overwhelming nature of parenting. Spouses can be intentional about their marriage so the whole family can thrive. After nearly 15 years of marriage, I’m still learning this. Small improvements in your family can make a big difference. Don’t feel guilty when you are taking time for your marriage. Remind yourself that you are benefiting your children as well. The alternative is to do nothing, and continue the almost imperceptible drift apart.
Why was I getting married? With the exception of my cousin, all the women in my family had been married and/or engaged by 19. Most of them had already had children by the time they were 22. So, in the context of my family, holding out for marriage until I finished college seemed like a radical move. Still, none of my friends were getting married. They were all going to grad school, joining the Peace Corps or getting hired at exciting jobs. Here I was, fussing over how "poofy" my veil should be and crying over response cards. I felt silly.
Every girl has her dream proposal and her nightmare scenario. "Will you marry me?" Asked entirely in belches. That actually sounds awesome. But I bet no woman thought about the Old Spice Guy. This week, The Old Spice Guy proposed on YouTube on behalf of a fan.