Ditch Your Need for Certainty: Cultivate These Nine Traits
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Ditch Your Need for Certainty: Cultivate These Nine Traits

Sometimes we find ourselves on the precipice of a decision and become paralyzed. We hesitate and over-analyze.We want to know how it’s going to turn out. I hate to break it to you, kitten, but nothing in life is certain. If you want to dive into living with your whole heart and live consciously, holding out for certainty is crippling. What I've discovered is that people who lead full lives ditch their need for certainty and have cultivated

Ban Bossy too Narrow: Let's Lean In to Teach Girls Courage
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Ban Bossy too Narrow: Let's Lean In to Teach Girls Courage

Earlier this week, Sheryl Sandberg's nonprofit, Lean In, together with the Girl Scouts of USA launched a public service campaign called Ban Bossy. Celebrities and CEOs are joining the campaign vowing to ban use of the word "bossy," a label believed to be so painful that fear of receiving it is at the root of girls' resistance to leadership. Ban Bossy Website Info Very Helpful

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As the spouse of a firefighter, one of my main duties is to keep curiosity at bay.
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A Year After Hurricane Sandy, A First Responder's Wife Reflects

Batteries line the kitchen counter next to several flashlights. My husband, Jim, places several matchbooks in my hand in an act of love, instructing me to use them sparingly over the next 24 hours that he'll be gone, then kisses my forehead and makes his way out the front door. A severe storm is on its way, but none of us have any idea what Hurricane Sandy has in store for us.

Men Who Wear Wigs
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Men Who Wear Wigs

When I was a kid I figured Nature was basically a guy thing, the same way I supposed wearing wigs, for example, was primarily a girl thing. That’s probably because when I was growing up it was men who did things like: hunt, spear, shoot, capture and in some cases kill while the females stayed let’s say, nearer to the hearth (or shopping mall).

Audition For "The Voice" At 51? Audacious Or Crazy idea?
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Audition For "The Voice" At 51? Audacious Or Crazy idea?

LIFE LESSONS from THE VOICE Auditions The balls of my feet felt like they were on fire after mostly standing in line for almost 6 hours waiting for my turn to sing at The Voice Auditions in New York City. My spouse, Christine, and I arrived at the site an hour before the scheduled time in my pass. I did not realize that thousands more had the same time stamped in their passes. And the line wrapped around a massive structure like Jacob Javits Convention Center, extending as far as 6 more blocks past the center. The hotdog vendor outside made serious business.

When Will You Begin the Long Journey To Yourself?
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When Will You Begin the Long Journey To Yourself?

I received a wonderful book for Christmas titled “How to Be Like Women of Influence – Life Lessons from 20 of the Greatest”. I’ve read it chapter by chapter one each day as part of my New Year’s Begin Again - Begin Within practices. Topics include: Compassion, Love, Courage, Resolve, Values, Sincerity, Wisdom, Strength, Vision, Persistence, Daring, Steadfastness, Empathy, Faith, Focus, and Integrity - developing a perfect prescription for a New Year and New Me.

What's The Secret To Being A Great Parent? (EXPERT)
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What's The Secret To Being A Great Parent? (EXPERT)

There are no secrets to being a ‘good’ parent. There are no truly “new” ideas out there. It’s all about a few basic principles: respect, responsibility, truth, flexibility, resilience, courage. Show it in words and actions so your kids know exactly how it looks and sounds. Those are the building blocks. Do them with greater and greater frequency and watch things change.

Encouraging Words To Build Confidence (EXPERT)
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Encouraging Words To Build Confidence (EXPERT)

Words can hurt or heal. Choose the words you say so your voice will be one of encouragement and praise, rather than demeaning and negative. Change the way you talk to others, and change their lives and yours. Empower those you incounter with encouraging words and phrases. I want to share a story with you about why I am so driven to teach, guide and mentor parents, coaches, counselors, police, teachers and other adults who are in a position to work with young people. Tell Me The Words To Say

4 Ways to Deal with the Pink Elephant
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4 Ways to Deal with the Pink Elephant

Every now and again you come across a situation in your life that blows your hair back, your skirt up or...just blows. For example: you find out the person you're seriously considering spending the rest of your life with isn't interested in a long-term relationship with you. Or you discover one evening, quite by accident, that your husband prefers blondes...who are hung like a horse.

Courage To Make Changes In Life-Overcome Fear (EXPERT)
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Courage To Make Changes In Life-Overcome Fear (EXPERT)

  Are You Afraid and Frustrated? If you are having difficulty turning problems into opportunities, you may be discouraged. You may have a need to build your self esteem in order to overcome fear, doubts and frustrations that are impacting the life you deserve to live. Having courage does not mean that you are free of fear, despair, doubt, frustration or discouragement.It does mean that we are able to meet life's challenges and move forward. Courage is Movement Forward

7 Ways To Save Or Improve Your Relationship
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7 Ways To Save Or Improve Your Relationship

Good relationships don't just happen. I've heard many of my clients state that, "If I have to work at it, then it's not the right relationship." This is not a true statement, any more than it's true that you don't have to work at good physical health through exercise, eating well and stress reduction. I've discovered seven choices you can make that will not only improve your relationship, but can turn a failing relationship into a successful one.

Just Keep Going!
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Just Keep Going!

Last Spring I had the fulfilling experience of picking up my new car from the dealership. Part of the experience was how thrilled I was with how my car looked and drove and well, everything about it! This was particularly happy-making for me as I had spent over a year working on my car-buying project. Once I had identified the car I wanted, I discovered none were available on any lot in all of Southern California. It was a brand new model and had to be special ordered.

It Takes Courage To Manifest Love
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It Takes Courage To Manifest Love

In the popular movie We Bought A Zoo, I loved when a teenage boy remembers the moment his father taught him that you only have to have courage and be brave for 20 seconds to make something great happen. This got me thinking about all the people who share with me that they "fear getting hurt again" as if that is a strong enough excuse not to do the work of getting prepared for love.