When we hear someone upset or complain, or when someone comes to us with a problem, it's easy, and actually pretty common for us to want to fix the problem for that person. We don’t want to see that person suffering. But in reality, more often than not we actually end up doing the person a disservice by coming from this focus of wanting to fix their problems for them.
Identifying the problem areas in ones' marriage is relatively easy, but the difficult part is ferreting out effective mechanisms to bridge the communication gap that often occurs when one’s partner has ADD. Knowledge, patience, and empathy go a long way in working on these issues.
Over the course of a year, I see hundreds of people. Still, some of the stories I hear have touched me deeply. Such was the case with a couple that asked to see me after hearing me speak in Hawaii.
In the past, you may have heard sex without climax referred to as boring, pointless or even (for the unlucky among us), "pretty normal." However, orgasm-less sex has a name, ladies and gentlemen, and for those hitting rough patches in a relationship, it may be the perfect prescription for romantic repair.
How to Get Time for Intimacy (without Spending the Big Bucks) if You're Parents of Small Children (EXPERT) To have intimacy in a relationship, couples need to have the four T's: Time, Talk, Trust and Touch. But for many parents of small kids, finding the time to talk and touch intimately is difficult. Who will take the kids? It's a problem.
If your marriage is on the rocks, and your husband refuses to attend couples therapy with you, you're probably completely frustrated. Fortunately, there is hope for your relationship.
Most people think of counseling as the kiss of death for relationships, but this couple opted to go for it anyway. And without that mindset. Now they're on the other side, and one wife is ready to share insights from their sessions with the shrink.
I hate divorce. It's a fact I have to live with though, because I am a relationship psychotherapist and some marriages have to end. I think divorce is a lot like marriage in that you don't really know what you're getting into until you're midway in and then it's too late to turn back. So, you just keep going, feeling, and living.
First there's the shock. "Oh my God! It's happened!" Your worst fear is realized; your partner is having an affair. Anger, despair, shock, and fear all swirl around seemingly at once and cloud your thinking until it feels like there is no way out. Eventually, you and your partner decide to seek help. Calls are made, appointments are set, and with the help of a qualified therapist, you both begin the process of healing.
If there's one thing those of us who have been married for a while know, it's that staying married over the long haul ain't always easy. Thank goodness for couples therapy, right? Or ... not? An article in The New York Times this weekend kind of blew apart the notion I had of couples counseling being the THE ANSWER.
Heidi Klum and Seal, it's time you reached out for some guidance! We recently surveyed our organization of 1,100 psychotherapists, counselors, coaches and relationship professionals—you may know them as YourTango Experts—to get their input on such topics as why couples fight and how therapy affects relationships.
What can you do to improve the chances that couples therapy is worth the time and money you put into it? In other words, what makes marriage counseling work? Of course you need the help of a skilled marriage therapist, but there are several things you can do to help make your marriage counseling a success.