Too Much To Do. Life gets crazy doesn’t it? You’ve fit your kids’ basketball and cheerleading practices into your schedule along with the dance recitals, the board meeting the business trip - and on it goes... It’s a whirlwind of “to-dos.” But where does your marriage fit into all of that? How much time do you put into making your marriage a priority, into making it what you want
Why are so many of us confused and intimidated when it comes to flirting? There is an art to flirting and a level of skill that can be amassed over time. Just like art, good flirting can be mind altering and life changing, but if we take things too seriously, the artfulness is lost – the joy and beauty get sucked out of it. Flirting is a lifelong skill that is useful whether you are 18 or 80, married or happily single, looking for love or in a long term relationship. Flirting injects life into just about any interaction.
See our BuzFeed Vido for some ideas on how to get unstuck. Andre Moore, Director of Marriage Couples Counseling and Life Coaching in New York City
Expert tip to help your marriage: Picking your Battles The couples I see with the most ongoing conflict are the ones who have not learned to pick their battles. These couples stay in constant conflict over who, left the lights on, and why the breadcrumbs are on the kitchen counter top.
In the previous blog, I wrote about the serial communication buster, wife number one of the man with two wives. Now it’s time to meet wife number two, Monica, who's also had a trying day at work. Her normal pumpkin sized patience has also withered down to the size of a pea. As she nears her front door, she hears a guitar playing. The first thing Monica does is STOP. She knows she’s feeling triggered and ready to fire. So she just STOPS and holds her tongue.
Does a lack of communication reveal another side to your significant other you didn't know existed?
Are obstacles such as in-laws, divorce, blended families or basic differences standing in the way of your relationship? Here's some advice on how couples can deal with them.
ARE YOU FUN TO BE WITH? ....when you're not spending money? Couples I have worked with over the years have often complained that they lack a common interest. If you have children, then you and your spouse might agree that your main focus of interest and activities are the children. As well, they should be, however, what about you? What about your partner? Do you both have an interest that you share together that is not about the kids?
Where are you most successful in your life? How did that success come about? Was it intelligence, education and talent or maybe just dumb luck? According to Angela Lee Duckworth, Ph.D, who studies achievement, true success takes more than intelligence and talent, which so many of us have. She also reminds us that attaining a level of expertise in any field takes 10 years of dedicated perseverance. In other words, the one thing that separates the world-renowned performers, artists, researchers, and high-achievers is GRIT.
[Note: In this article, I speak as a masculine man in relationship to feminine women. Please adjust the gender terms to suit your relationship life.] In previous articles, I described narcissism as an extreme form of selfishness. But narcissism goes beyond mere self-interest. It’s more akin to egotism — an excessive or exaggerated sense of self-importance. In the extreme, a narcissist exists alone at the center of his (or her) known universe.