With all the "to dos" on our busy life schedule, it can be hard to find time as a couple. Thankfully, technology can help us out. Find out how Skype can help give your marriage the attention it needs.
In a relationship, both partners have a role in destructive patterns of arguments. Marriage Therapist Christine Wilke tells a personal story of forgetting to follow her own marriage advice. She figured out how to get back on track and so can you!
Mental Health Awareness Month, receiving special recognition during May, seems the opportune time to talk about how Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) not only improves client relationships, but benefits the therapist as well. My own personal story has been a career and transforming experience, and I would like to share it here, in hopes of inspiring/encouraging others.
As I was standing in line waiting, a man was standing nearby. He was talking to his wife on the phone trying to figure out her order. His voice was loud, back and forth the conversation went, he trying to get her order correct and growing more frustrated and condescending with each interchange of the conversation. The conversation dragged on for what seemed like hours to me. The tone of his voice sent me into major anxiety and I wanted to run out of the store. It took all the strength I could muster to wait for my order to be completed.
Lucky four-leaf clovers are popping up a lot this month along with that elusive pot of gold. Some folks think luck is what it takes for a marriage to thrive. But if you’ve been married more than a few years, you know much more goes into a good marriage than luck. A great relationship takes dedication and that scary word – WORK. This is the good kind of work though, the kind that brings life-long rewards. Don’t you find that anything worthwhile takes work? Those washboard abs don’t just magically appear and a successful business doesn’t grow by itself.
In the previous article I discussed how choosing a long term partner may be compelled by inner forces unknown to us. We are complex creatures and are often not clear about what drives or motivates us. When you enter into a relationship that begins to take a serious path ask yourself the following questions:
Too Much To Do. Life gets crazy doesn’t it? You’ve fit your kids’ basketball and cheerleading practices into your schedule along with the dance recitals, the board meeting the business trip - and on it goes... It’s a whirlwind of “to-dos.” But where does your marriage fit into all of that? How much time do you put into making your marriage a priority, into making it what you want it to be?
The Secret To Why Men Don’t Commit. Have you been in a relationship or are curtly in one now dealing with a guy that just can’t commit to you what so ever? Do you find that he always seems distant and acts like he loves you but then a week later he is questioning if the two of you should even be together?
All too often in life, people make assumptions about love and relationships that do not stand up under scrutiny—that are not supported by the available evidence. So, what are the facts? One of the great misconceptions of all time about love and relationships is this—just do the big things and everything will turn out well. And what do the big things include?
Work, gym, grocery store, cook dinner, family time, clean the house, go to bed... no wonder initial feelings of love and attraction decrease in committed relationships! Keeping the fire lit in your love life can be difficult, but these six steps can help!
Does your man become distant as soon as you open up and connect with him? Here's some couples advice on how to maintain a healthy and open relationship with your significant other.
If you are a couple in distress and not sure if you will ever figure out how to connect again, fear not. There is a way out of despair and back to each other. That golden roadmap to connecting with your partner again is called – in more official lingo – Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). I know, “therapy” doesn’t sound as interesting, but before I lose you, please read on…because EFT works, and if you feel desperate to connect with your partner once again, it may be for you.
This story comes from a recent excerpt from The Writer's Almanac published by Garrison Keillor. It's an inspiring story because it reveals how a gifted man used his feelings of shame to create something beautiful. We often use the story as a metaphor to encourage the men we work with to show their deeper feelings of shame and vulnerability to their lovers, something that's usually much harder for men to do than women.
designrider: Really effective therapy that not only helped us deal with particular issues but also gave us tools to use ourselves. This is not "crutch" counseling. The object here is to figure out how to live without therapy. Always relaxed and comfortable yet rigorous and perceptive. I have referred friends and family with nothing but positive outcomes. Highly recommended...A+