Brief Solution Focused Therapy For Couples
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Brief Solution Focused Therapy For Couples

A Solution Focused Therapist will:Look for openings to help couples discover solution building rather than problem definition language. Encourage couples to stretch more for each other so they can experience easier, more flexible give and take in their day to day relations. Help couples create new meanings and new ways of understanding old problems. Encourage lovers to own their own agendas without hiding from each other or going underground.

9 ways to keep your marriage healthy
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9 ways to keep your marriage healthy

 First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes decades of time together strewn with a minefield of potential relationship wreckers. It's a wonder that anyone ends up walking off into the sunset, hand-in-wrinkled-hand, with a silver-haired mate. What do those geriatric lovebirds know that you don't? Well, the truth is that even in so-called happy marriages, both partners probably fantasize some of the time -- or even much of the time -- about throwing in the towel.

21 Ways To Show You Care About Your Lover
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21 Ways To Show You Care About Your Lover

Felling vulnerable these days? Maybe you've lost money in your IRA because of a bearish stock market. Or you've been asked to put in more hours at work for the same pay. You're worried about rising school expenses for the kids. Both you and your wife are working harder than ever but you feel like you're barely holding your heads above water.

What Have You Stopped Doing Since You Got Together?
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What Have You Stopped Doing Since You Got Together?

"We've cut back on dinners out. In the beginning, it was all about going on nice dates, but now we cook at home and use the money we save to take more vacations. It pays off!" — SHAUN TALLON, 27, in a relationship with FAITH for 5 years "I don't wear expensive lingerie anymore. One day he told me he couldn't care less about it, because it just ends up on the floor!" — RITA MCKEOWN, 50, married to SEAN for 20 years

How to Communicate True Love
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How to Communicate True Love

Perhaps there is someone new in your life. You want to let them know you are falling in love with them but not sure how. Maybe you have been seeing someone for a little while now. You realize that you are ready to deepen the bond or take things to a new level but you don’t want to screw it up. Perhaps there is someone special who has been in your life for a very long time. You are seeking fresh new ways to demonstrate your love and affection, but are drawing a blank. When it comes to communicating love, a generic one size fits all approach simply will not do.

Navigating Differences for Couples
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Navigating Differences for Couples

Six key things that all serious, long-term lovers should keep in mind if they want to grow together and deepen their sense of emotional safety and intimacy: It’s never about agreeing on everything It’s easy to say, “This upsets me.” But it’s not so easy to talk about the deeper meanings that will enable you to become more understanding and more intimate with each other.

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Does your man do household chores?
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When Men Do Chores, You Have Less Sex

What woman wouldn't want her husband's help with daily chores? After all, even if your husband thanks you and expresses gratitude for your housework, words only go so far. Plus, no one wants to feel taken for granted, and an overload of household chores can easily dampen the desire for romance.

Solving the Secrets of Your Man
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Solving the Secrets of Your Man

I recently discovered the work on Alison Armstrong – who for 15 years has been honing her message on the important differences in men and women that manifest in the heterosexual marriage in typical and often frustrating ways.  Her wisdom is found in the freedom that comes when we understand each other instead of blame and accuse each other.  Last week I was sharing some of these ideas with a small group of grad therapy students.  One of the men who is newly married, lit up and said, “Oh my gosh, that happene

Can Marriage Survive In Antarctica?
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Can Marriage Survive In Antarctica?

We did it!! We did it!! When we planted our feet on the continent of Antarctica a few days ago, we became the first marriage researchers to interview successfully married couples on all seven continents of the world. And we want you to know that we are very proud of that accomplishment! As our loyal readers know, we have been engaged in our “labor of love” for over 30 years. We began our journey with this simple idea in mind – “Do great marriages around the world share common and pervasive characteristics.“

4 Sugary Sweets & 4 Bah Humbugs of Gift Card Giving
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4 Sugary Sweets & 4 Bah Humbugs of Gift Card Giving

Remember the last time you were carded? Stop. We mean gift-carded! Most people in this land of plastic have either given or received at least one gift card. The National Retail Federation reports that 6 of 10 consumers say “they’d like to receive gift cards this year.” The to-give-or-not-to-give debate rages on, but all of The 5 Money Personalities™ may benefit from buying gift cards for others.  The Flyer c

Parents’ divorce linked to your fading passion - Guest Blog
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Parents’ divorce linked to your fading passion - Guest Blog

There’s no one reason couples get divorced, but unfortunately there are multiple effects. Aside from the psychological and emotional stress divorce can inflict on the couple, alone, it can also deliver a huge blow to children in the family. A new study by UK’s Economic and Social Research Council found that children of divorced parents were more likely to develop social and psychological problems as adults than those whose parents stayed married.

And Baby Makes Three
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And Baby Makes Three

  I used to think that if something didn’t turn out right (cake batter or laundering a stained blouse, say) the way to apply a fix was to add something.  More flour to the batter.  An applique over the stain.  I’d like to say those solutions worked, but we both know better. So why do we seek to add a BIG COMPLICATION to an already-complicated situation?  I’m not talking returning a dog to the pound because he digs under the fence.  Or changing your mind about that four grand worth of furniture.

The Dog That Won't Fetch
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The Dog That Won't Fetch

Riding my 3-wheeler on a Sunday morning bike ride with David, we pedaled a mile to get donuts (a reward for exercising).  We pass by a huge grassy field on our route and paused to watch a man throwing a ball to his dog.  A golden retriever, she looked to be a mature animal, but what do I know about dogs.

The Dog That Won't Fetch
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The Dog That Won't Fetch

Riding my 3-wheeler on a Sunday morning bike ride with David, we pedaled a mile to get donuts (a reward for exercising).  We pass by a huge grassy field on our route and paused to watch a man throwing a ball to his dog.  A golden retriever, she looked to be a mature animal, but what do I know about dogs.