Is It Ever Safe To Complain In A Relationship?
How do you — as a couple — break out of the cycle of conflict?
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Is It Ever Safe To Complain In A Relationship?

It's important to be open and honest with your partner, but how do you do that without stirring up unnecessary drama in your relationship? Our expert explains how to get your message across and avoid conflict.

How To Save Your Marriage: Tips To Succeed At Couples Counseling
Don't wait til it's too late! Most couples wait six years before getting outside help.
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How To Save Your Marriage: 7 Tips To Succeed At Counseling

Despite my best efforts as a counselor to help couples negotiate the choppy waters of relationship distress, many of them simply don't make it. In the beginning, we set an appointment and begin the process. Many of their problems have gone unresolved for months, even years. So why can't they make it work?

3 Must Do Steps to Avoid Fighting With Your Partner On Holidays a
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3 Must Do Steps to Avoid Fighting With Your Partner On Holidays a

This article discusses a few steps you need to take in order to make the most of those special, high pressure days on the calendar, when you and your partner are supposed to blissfully get along, whether they are holidays or vacation days. A common complaint of many couples who come into my office is that they constantly fight on vacation or holidays. Is this a problem for you too? Why?  Shouldn’t it be easier to get along without the pressure of work and the rest of life’s stresses?

Poems for Lonely Exes
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Poems for Lonely Exes

Here are more poems we've shared with some of the people we've worked with; men and women who have recently broken up with their lovers or broke up a long time ago and haven't yet recovered. Like the poems we selected for our earlier post, Poems to Love Smarter, these fall into the second of the three categories of things Joseph Campbell wrote about in The Power of Myth: 1) The things that can’t be talked about, 2) The words we use to describe the things that ca

A Man Has as Much Right as a Woman to a Good Cry
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A Man Has as Much Right as a Woman to a Good Cry

This story comes from a recent excerpt from The Writer's Almanac published by Garrison Keillor. It's an inspiring story because it reveals how a gifted man used his feelings of shame to create something beautiful. We often use the story as a metaphor to encourage the men we work with to show their deeper feelings of shame and vulnerability to their lovers, something that's usually much harder for men to do than women.

Counseling and Life Coaching that Work
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Counseling and Life Coaching that Work

designrider: Really effective therapy that not only helped us deal with particular issues but also gave us tools to use ourselves. This is not "crutch" counseling. The object here is to figure out how to live without therapy. Always relaxed and comfortable yet rigorous and perceptive. I have referred friends and family with nothing but positive outcomes. Highly recommended...A+

Couples' Dialog: The Secret To A Healthy Relationship
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Couples' Dialog: The Secret To A Healthy Relationship

The couples’ dialogue is the secret to a lasting relationship with your lover. In the same way that Yoga helps you find a deeper connection to your inner self, the couples’ dialogue helps you find a deeper connection to your lover. The key to the dialogue is to listen and really take in your lover’s point of view, without having to agree with it. Choose Roles