All too often in life, people make assumptions about love and relationships that do not stand up under scrutiny—that are not supported by the available evidence. So, what are the facts? One of the great misconceptions of all time about love and relationships is this—just do the big things and everything will turn out well. And what do the big things include?
COUPLE CHALLENGES, RELATIONSHIP CHALLENGE
Expert tip to help your marriage: Picking your Battles The couples I see with the most ongoing conflict are the ones who have not learned to pick their battles. These couples stay in constant conflict over who, left the lights on, and why the breadcrumbs are on the kitchen counter top.
Relationships are one of the most difficult aspects of life; they are also one of the most satisfying things in the world. Many people believe that a perfect relationship is one that flows at a steady pace along the river; they feel that any sort of challenges that rock the boat are the first signs that the relationship is heading for trouble. The challenges that people endure in relationships are usually bad things, but sometimes the right argument or ordeal can create a stronger bond between two people, whether they are married or just dating.
Adrianna was 18 and knew she was hot. She had dark brown hair that hung below her shoulders and wore sweats with a tight tank top and bare midriff that made it hard to avoid admiring her Survivor abs Her face was clear and beautiful which made it easy to miss the fear in her eyes. Adrianna was tough. She grew up in Bed-Sty and never took shit from anybody. Once in her junior year in high school, on the subway returning from a football game, a guy in her algebra class started squeezing her thigh. She dumped her hot latte on him and punched him hard in the face.
The biggest secret about why men find vulnerability attractive in the bedroom is, guess what, they need women to inspire them to show their deeper feelings so they can feel safer with them. But it’s hard for men to be emotionally vulnerable even though, deep down, they wish to be. Most men grow up believing that women expect them to: • Always show emotional control • View work as a top priority
In the first season of HBO’s GIRLS, we see three sex scenes written by Lena Dunham that really leave us wondering: First, Hannah who makes a half-hearted effort at a deeper emotional connection with her boyfriend Adam but lapses into role playing his sexual fantasies, as if she were an anthropologist engaged in participant observation. "I knew when I found you on the street you wanted it this way," Adam tells her. "But we didn't meet on the street," she
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Research by social psychologist J. M. Gottman, reported in What Predicts Divorce, has shown that it's not angry exchanges that predict divorce but four kinds of negativity that corrode the love you have for each other. These four variables increase the odds of getting a divorce to 85%: 1. Criticism: Attacking your lover's character. 2. Defensiveness: Denying responsibility when you screw up. 3. Contempt: Insulting, abusive comments to your lover. 4. Stonewalling: Emotionally withdrawing and not listening to your lover.
A good fight for couples always ends with improved understanding and deeper emotional connection. A bad fight, like a weak scene in a movie, never gets to the point or an emotional place where the two antagonist lovers touch each other’s hearts. It just drags on until they walk away in complete despair, then come back later for another round.
Felling vulnerable these days? Maybe you've lost money in your IRA because of a bearish stock market. Or you've been asked to put in more hours at work for the same pay. You're worried about rising school expenses for the kids. Both you and your wife are working harder than ever but you feel like you're barely holding your heads above water.
Here are 7 important criteria to use in evaluating a Brief Solution Focused Therapist: The therapist will: 1. Look for openings to help you discover solution building rather than problem definition language. 2. Encourage you to stretch more for each other so you can experience easier, more flexible give and take in your day to day relations. 3. Help you create new meanings and new ways of understanding old problems. 4. Encourage you to own your own agendas without hiding from each other or going underground.
Question I’m dating a woman who’s really great, except for the fact that she’s constantly questioning me whenever we spend any time apart. To give you an example, when I go out with friends, she has to know where I’m going, when I’m going to be back, and exactly who else will be there.
Question I have a great boyfriend, who is smart, funny, and cute. We get along really well, except for one problem - his job involves a lot of travel and there are times when he is on the road for months. I find his absences difficult to deal with (although when he returns, we seem to be fine again).
I recently discovered the work on Alison Armstrong – who for 15 years has been honing her message on the important differences in men and women that manifest in the heterosexual marriage in typical and often frustrating ways. Her wisdom is found in the freedom that comes when we understand each other instead of blame and accuse each other. Last week I was sharing some of these ideas with a small group of grad therapy students. One of the men who is newly married, lit up and said, “Oh my gosh, that happene
Have you settled for companionship in your would-be romantic relationship? Companionship is when you exist in the same home but spend very little time together, and neither of you is particularly satisfied.