Of all the sex dramatized in GIRLS, one vital ingredient is missing.
In the first season of HBO’s GIRLS, we see three sex scenes written by Lena Dunham that really leave us wondering:
First, Hannah who makes a half-hearted effort at a deeper emotional connection with her
boyfriend Adam but lapses into role playing his sexual fantasies, as if she were
an anthropologist engaged in participant observation. "I knew when I found you on the
street you wanted it this way," Adam tells her. "But we didn't meet on the street," she
Hunting for husband material? These signs suggest hunting elsewhere.
Amy is dealing with a man who suffers from commitment-phobia and a deep fear of intimacy. His own negative self-beliefs about commitment, love and relationships will guarantee that this relationship won't last.
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Better to get an early warning than being hit with a red alert.
Research by social psychologist J. M. Gottman, reported in What Predicts Divorce, has shown that it's not angry exchanges that predict divorce but four kinds of negativity that corrode the love you have for each other. These four variables increase the odds of getting a divorce to 85%:
1. Criticism: Attacking your lover's character.
2. Defensiveness: Denying responsibility when you screw up.
3. Contempt: Insulting, abusive comments to your lover.
4. Stonewalling: Emotionally withdrawing and not listening to your lover.
Good fights end with greater understanding. Bad fights always get triggered by low self-esteem.
A good fight for couples always ends with improved understanding and deeper emotional connection. A bad fight, like a weak scene in a movie, never gets to the point or an emotional place where the two antagonist lovers touch each other’s hearts. It just drags on until they walk away in complete despair, then come back later for another round.
When times get tough, little everyday kindnesses can make a big difference
Felling vulnerable these days? Maybe you've lost money in your IRA because of a bearish stock market. Or you've been asked to put in more hours at work for the same pay. You're worried about rising school expenses for the kids. Both you and your wife are working harder than ever but you feel like you're barely holding your heads above water.
What you should look for in Short Term Couples Therapy
Here are 7 important criteria to use in evaluating a Brief Solution Focused Therapist:
The therapist will:
1. Look for openings to help you discover solution building rather than problem definition language.
2. Encourage you to stretch more for each other so you can experience easier, more flexible give and take in your day to day relations.
3. Help you create new meanings and new ways of understanding old problems.
4. Encourage you to own your own agendas without hiding from each other or going underground.
My Girlfriend Has Serious Trust Issues - What Do I Do?
Question
I’m dating a woman who’s really great, except for the fact that she’s constantly questioning me whenever we spend any time apart.
To give you an example, when I go out with friends, she has to know where I’m going, when I’m going to be back, and exactly who else will be there.
My Boyfriend Travels A Lot - I Do Not Like The Absences - What Do I Do?
Question
I have a great boyfriend, who is smart, funny, and cute. We get along really well, except for one problem - his job involves a lot of travel and there are times when he is on the road for months.
I find his absences difficult to deal with (although when he returns, we seem to be fine again).
What if you could understand the frustrating parts of your man and get him to be the lover you need?
I recently discovered the work on Alison Armstrong – who for 15 years has been honing her message on the important differences in men and women that manifest in the heterosexual marriage in typical and often frustrating ways. Her wisdom is found in the freedom that comes when we understand each other instead of blame and accuse each other. Last week I was sharing some of these ideas with a small group of grad therapy students. One of the men who is newly married, lit up and said, “Oh my gosh, that happene
Contrary to popular belief, romance doesn't have to die.
Have you settled for companionship in your would-be romantic relationship? Companionship is when you exist in the same home but spend very little time together, and neither of you is particularly satisfied.
