With our fast paced society and the extreme demands hitting us from every side, more and more couples find negativity taking over their marriage. An abrupt injection of positivity into your relationship is the only way to change the environment before it is too late.
This article discusses a few steps you need to take in order to make the most of those special, high pressure days on the calendar, when you and your partner are supposed to blissfully get along, whether they are holidays or vacation days. A common complaint of many couples who come into my office is that they constantly fight on vacation or holidays. Is this a problem for you too? Why? Shouldn’t it be easier to get along without the pressure of work and the rest of life’s stresses?
Here are more poems we've shared with some of the people we've worked with; men and women who have recently broken up with their lovers or broke up a long time ago and haven't yet recovered. Like the poems we selected for our earlier post, Poems to Love Smarter, these fall into the second of the three categories of things Joseph Campbell wrote about in The Power of Myth: 1) The things that can’t be talked about, 2) The words we use to describe the things that ca
This story comes from a recent excerpt from The Writer's Almanac published by Garrison Keillor. It's an inspiring story because it reveals how a gifted man used his feelings of shame to create something beautiful. We often use the story as a metaphor to encourage the men we work with to show their deeper feelings of shame and vulnerability to their lovers, something that's usually much harder for men to do than women.
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The couples’ dialogue is the secret to a lasting relationship with your lover. In the same way that Yoga helps you find a deeper connection to your inner self, the couples’ dialogue helps you find a deeper connection to your lover. The key to the dialogue is to listen and really take in your lover’s point of view, without having to agree with it. Choose Roles
These are the most frequent mistakes that couples make, often so quickly that they don't fully recognize them as mistakes, so please take time to see which apply to you and your lover: 1. Arbitrary inferences: Conclusions made without supporting evidence. Example: "He's late from work. He must be visiting one of his ex-girlfriends.
A Solution Focused Therapist will:Look for openings to help couples discover solution building rather than problem definition language. Encourage couples to stretch more for each other so they can experience easier, more flexible give and take in their day to day relations. Help couples create new meanings and new ways of understanding old problems. Encourage lovers to own their own agendas without hiding from each other or going underground.
First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes decades of time together strewn with a minefield of potential relationship wreckers. It's a wonder that anyone ends up walking off into the sunset, hand-in-wrinkled-hand, with a silver-haired mate. What do those geriatric lovebirds know that you don't? Well, the truth is that even in so-called happy marriages, both partners probably fantasize some of the time -- or even much of the time -- about throwing in the towel.
Felling vulnerable these days? Maybe you've lost money in your IRA because of a bearish stock market. Or you've been asked to put in more hours at work for the same pay. You're worried about rising school expenses for the kids. Both you and your wife are working harder than ever but you feel like you're barely holding your heads above water.
"We've cut back on dinners out. In the beginning, it was all about going on nice dates, but now we cook at home and use the money we save to take more vacations. It pays off!" — SHAUN TALLON, 27, in a relationship with FAITH for 5 years "I don't wear expensive lingerie anymore. One day he told me he couldn't care less about it, because it just ends up on the floor!" — RITA MCKEOWN, 50, married to SEAN for 20 years
