First aid for turning a ho-hum relationship back to the intimacy you need!
Is your relationship in a rut? Maybe you know that something’s missing in your relationship but you can’t quite put your finger on it. Being in a relationship rut means that you are neither particularly unhappy with your partner but you also not particularly happy. It’s like being in a comfortable place of indifference and acceptance that you can’t seem to get out of…why? Simply because it’s what you’ve both become accustomed to and you don’t know how to change it. But, here’s some great news...it doesn’t have to be this way! We all sometimes need a wake-up call to rouse us out of mediocrity and into the life and relationship of our dreams. There is a way to do this in your relationship and I’m going to give you some tips on how to get there.
How can couples ensure that what they say is interpreted in the way that they mean it? The first step is to identify the common communication mistakes so that we can then try to fix them.
I’ve met so many couples during my years as a psychotherapist whose problems boil down to a simple lack of communication. In most cases, this type of communication skill does not come naturally and the only way to ingrain it into your relationship is to learn and continually use this valuable communication strategy: The Mirroring Exercise.
Most couples experience conflict in the weeks (and even months!) building up to their nuptials. The pre-wedding stress coupled with the anticipation of a brand-new life ahead often leads to friction. Here are some tips on how to minimize, pre-wedding friction.
You began the conversation with altruistic intentions. The intensity and staccato of your voices signal that you and your partner are approaching a full-blown argument. You don’t want to fling insults and accusations. You just need a time out. What do you do?
Still no ring in sight? Figure out if you're looking for a proposal or just validation. Ask yourself why you want him to propose in the first place. Tell him how you're feeling and make sure you communicate whether or not fertility is an issue, and other steps you can take when you're feeling anxious about where the relationship is headed.
In fact, Kate is betting that by televising the couple's marriage meltdowns, her and her brood will bank more big money and big opportunity. "Kate wants a future in showbiz, and airing their counseling sessions will shoot the show's ratings through the roof," said an insider close to the couple. "Jon was all for counseling, but Kate thought their marriage might be too far gone." Until that is, she realized that the TLC cash cow was almost out of milk.
Going to couples therapy wasn’t something my boyfriend or I had to wrangle the other into. Our rough patch was more like a slick of black ice, and we were careening towards a precipitous ending. We had moved in together almost a year before, and couples therapy seemed easier than breaking up. It would at least buy us time to figure out how to split our belongings while I looked for my own place. I was scared, and didn’t know what to expect. Would she pit us against each other? Would she take my side or his? What if she liked him better than me?
Only Madonna, Ritchie, a marriage therapist (and perhaps a therapist's nosy administrative assistant) will ever know whether the former couple really drew up a "love pact." But it does perk our interest. Should we all have one of these? Are they only for the rich and famous? With the right guidelines, can they improve—and in some cases—save a marriage?
Today we bring you two studies about marital satisfaction. It is, in fact, possible to have a happy marriage! Read on to find out how… An ongoing study by the National Institutes of Health suggests that a yearly "marriage checkup" could help people's unions—and bodies—stay healthy. Another way to improve a marriage? Kick out the kids! According to a UC Berkley study, women see improvements in their marriages after their children have moved out of the house.
Poll: Should Therapy For Kids Of Divorced Parents Be Mandatory?: Yes, absolutely. They'll thank you in the long run. No, not necessarily. The kids should be able to choose.
There comes a point in every relationship when the romance is not what it used to be. Couples can do a number of things to get more romantic including sexy clothes, therapy, or just anything that makes them feel alive. Catie Lazarus checks in with her therapists and finds out how to get the magic back on this video episode of "On The Couch".