When couples come to therapy, one of their very first assignments is to write down their mission statement for the marriage. I am asking them for the main reason they are married. The answers are varied and may look like, “We fell in love” or “We got pregnant.” Sometimes, the answers are a bit funny, such as “Who else would have me?” We sit and listen to the couples’ individual reasons and get an idea of what is important to them as a couple.
Bonnie McEneaney, an author, former business executive and mother of four, lost her husband on Sept. 11, 2001 after he experienced premonitions that his life would end in a terrorist attack on New York City. Ten years later, Bonnie opens up on how the tragedy strengthened her spiritual bond with her deceased husband and what all women can learn about love based on the signs she's received from beyond.
Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte, Samantha -- my go-to girlfriends from Sex and the City answered basically every relationship question out there. From June, 1998 - February, 2004, these cherished heroines were at once approachable, smart, hilarious, insightful, brutally honest and self-effacing. Sure, the Prada bags and Jimmy Choos are fun to see, but the fashion was merely an appealing aesthetic serving as a delivery platform for ground-breaking discussions about sex, commitment, friendship and love.
To be honest, this isn't a topic I usually think about or discuss. The people who come into my office have typcially already answered the question of "why therapy?" long before I meet them. Their answers might include: "It's worked for me in the past", "I have nothing else to try", or "why not?"
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LIFE COACHING & THERAPY: IS THERE ONE? And What is it? Many people ask: “what exactly is the difference between therapy and coaching?” Well, I feel rather well qualified to answer that question although, there are many styles of both therapy and coaching. A lot of LIfe Coaches like to assert with pride: “Coaching isn’t like Therapy”. I feel I’m also rather qualified to speak directly to that as well …
There are tons of helpers out there for almost every issue a person can come up with. When looking for a Coach, here are some things to keep in mind. 1. First and foremost is a CONNECTION. When you are interviewing your prospective Coach, be yourself. Don’t hold back. Use the language you use. State your opinions. Make yourself known. Then listen for how this person responds. Are they in tune with you? Are they sensitive to your style? Do they really hear you or are they intent on their own agenda? Do you feel understood and accepted?
Not surprisingly, sleepless nights, diaper duty and the drain on finances takes a toll on young couples whose greatest stressor, up until that point, was what movie to rent on a Saturday night. In fact, the Relationship Research Institute in Seattle reports that two-thirds of couples experience a decline in their relationship after the birth of their first child. Women start feeling dissatisfied right away, while men experience these feelings gradually.
I tell my clients that you need to fight more! Research has shown that people who fight tend to be happier because you are talking to your partner about things that really matter to you. In this video, I tell you how to have a fight that will actually improve your intimacy.
In Texas, a license to wed will cost you $60, a long way since its start rate of $15.50, and its purpose isn’t to inconvenience engaged couples, but to encourage them to stay “twogether.” Turns out, most Texas couples are not into it.
We asked the top love experts to give the final word on the most-asked relationship and dating questions. In this episode of "The Final Word," we asked them what qualifications should determine if a person is "The One." They offered some surprising insight into this common question.
There are topics people won't touch at cocktail parties because it's not "polite conversation." These are subjects people secretly want to discuss, but, when broached over hummus and Merlot, make them uncomfortable. These are precisely the things I love talking about. So here goes: My husband and I just graduated from couple's therapy.
Is your relationship in a rut? Maybe you know that something’s missing in your relationship but you can’t quite put your finger on it. Being in a relationship rut means that you are neither particularly unhappy with your partner but you also not particularly happy. It’s like being in a comfortable place of indifference and acceptance that you can’t seem to get out of…why? Simply because it’s what you’ve both become accustomed to and you don’t know how to change it. But, here’s some great news...it doesn’t have to be this way! We all sometimes need a wake-up call to rouse us out of mediocrity and into the life and relationship of our dreams. There is a way to do this in your relationship and I’m going to give you some tips on how to get there.