By Unlocked Love Matchmakers, Mary Wright for Galtime.Com rebuilding after betrayal Relationships can be challenging, but infidelity can create a hardship that causes the relationship to collapse. After discovering that your partner has been cheating, you may begin to question yourself and wonder how you missed the warning signs.
A new study published by Christine Milrod and co-author Ronald Weitzer analyzes 2,442 postings written by people who pay for sex on an online discussion board that reviews sex providers and their services. Approximately one-third of the posts discussed emotional intimacy between sex workers and their clients.
People who are addicted to porn now have the option to logon to websites, discuss their desires and preferences and have immediate and free access to any images, videos or video chats that they want. While people are generally pretty open about viewing pornography online, it is still, to some extent, a hidden addiction in many relationships.
The family's innermost emotions and struggles came to light as they met with Dr. Nicki J. Monti, family therapist. Dr. Monti utilized the systems approach of family therapy to best understand the entire system of the family and how each individual member is impacted by the larger family system.
In a recent study, at the University Of Notre Dame, Anita Kelly, a Psychology Professor, reported that when peoples lies went up during the week, their health went down. Conversely, she reported that when people’s lies decreased, their overall health improved. This is amazing news, connecting our emotional life with our physical wellbeing. Anyone who has ever attended a 12 step meeting knows that addiction and lies go hand in hand.
Being a Counselor and meeting with many people, I became aware of the reluctance of people to share how their sexual lives were going. Many times our sexual lives are following the same patterns that we are dealing with on a day to day basis in other areas of our life. The problem is that many people carry shame and guilt about their behaviors and feel they must hold onto the secrets or the shame will feel overwhelming and they couldn’t possible handle it. I have seen people weekly for a year building trust, before they feel comfortable enough to open up about sex
Dear Dr. Romance: I have been married for 17 years and thought we had a great marriage. 10 years ago I got hurt and have had 6 back surgeries. At one point I would double up on meds and drink to ignore life. During this time my husband was an angel; until he discovered I was taking more meds and drinking. He was so repulsed that i was doing this to our family. He would talk to his friend (a girl) and began to have some feelings.
Bad therapists happen. It is a fact. There is no screen in grad school that weeds out the therapists that shouldn't be therapists. Now, if you don't like your therapist - that can happen and in fact can at times be normal. I believe that when you enter my office, we engage in a dance, a dance that you have done over and over. My job is to help you see the dance steps that aren't working for you, that keep you from the life you want to live. But, that means, I have to learn to dance with you.
by Dr. Lynda Klau All my life, it appeared that I was “on the right track,” so that by the time I was in my twenties I had achieved all of the trappings of conventional success: I was married, I had earned my PhD, was financially comfortable and traveled often. But always, deep within, I felt a haunting sense of incompletion—a pervasive longing for something I couldn’t name.
Most people think of counseling as the kiss of death for relationships, but this couple opted to go for it anyway. And without that mindset. Now they're on the other side, and one wife is ready to share insights from their sessions with the shrink.
Dear Dr. Romance: I congratulate you for your many helpful articles on the Internet. I would like to have your advice. I am male and in the last 25 years I had a therapy experience which lasted 3 1/2 years and left me with unresolved issues; shorter therapy experiences with different therapists, which I ended, because it seemed to be prolonged pointless therapy, for the sake of therapy. I am left with frustration from the futility of these experiences.
Dear Dr. Romance: I'm at a loss as to what to do. I'm married to a man that I sleep in the same bed (our daughterco-sleeps with us) with but other than that not much else. We are in our thirties, and we've been married about two years but have been living togetherfor longer. In the beginning it was great, even after we got married we spent most of our time together. I got pregnant and we lost our first little girl when I was 8 months pregnant, and a couple months later I got pregnant with our little girl who's now two.
As "The Pro Marriage Counselor" I have to tell you: There have been so many pop-articles recently about why men and woman cheat. These articles cite everything from so called “evolutionary psychology” studies to the unqualified opinions of celebrities to the actual North American and European infidelity rates. But just because Kim Kardashian or Ashton Kutcher and others say it, doesn't mean it's true!
I see a great many couples in my private practice. Lately, there seems to be a theme: couples who have been together or married for many years, who have "grown apart." This feeling is usually expressed by one partner, while the other is caught somewhat off-guard, not realizing things have gotten as bad as they are until the unhappy partner suggests a separation, divorce, or counseling. The expression of incredulity on my clients' faces shows that they really don't understand how their partner could be ready to walk out. The unhappy partner, on the other hand, doesn't understand why their mate is so slow to realize how unhappy they have been. How does this happen? How is it that each partner's experience of the relationship is so different?
When couples come to therapy, one of their very first assignments is to write down their mission statement for the marriage. I am asking them for the main reason they are married. The answers are varied and may look like, “We fell in love” or “We got pregnant.” Sometimes, the answers are a bit funny, such as “Who else would have me?” We sit and listen to the couples’ individual reasons and get an idea of what is important to them as a couple.