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Confused & Unsure? You May Be Suffering From Abuse [EXPERT]
Are you feeling unsure of yourself in your relationship?
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Confused & Unsure? You May Be Suffering From Abuse

So how do you know if you have fallen prey to this subtle form of abuse? It is helpful to start paying attention to your feelings and emotions. If you tune into your body, you will gain clues to help you discover if your partner is trustworthy or not. The easiest way to tell is to ask yourself, "Do I feel emotionally safe with my partner?"

11 Ways To Divorce Proof Your Marriage
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11 Ways To Divorce Proof Your Marriage

"I think I have to get a divorce" Courtney confided shakily to her dad. Six months before, with her parents support, this intelligent and successful 25-year-old young woman had married the man of her dreams. Her dad just wants Courtney to be happy but has no idea whether to encourage her to stay and try to work things out or to help her get out of her marriage as quickly and painlessly as possible.

5 Lies People Who Pay For Sex Tell Themselves [EXPERT]
Lie #2: "This could turn into a real relationship."
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5 Lies People Who Pay For Sex Tell Themselves

A new study published by Christine Milrod and co-author Ronald Weitzer analyzes 2,442 postings written by people who pay for sex on an online discussion board that reviews sex providers and their services. Approximately one-third of the posts discussed emotional intimacy between sex workers and their clients.

5 Signs Your Man Is Addicted To Porn [EXPERT]
What's he up to anyway?
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5 Signs Your Man Is Addicted To Porn

People who are addicted to porn now have the option to logon to websites, discuss their desires and preferences and have immediate and free access to any images, videos or video chats that they want. While people are generally pretty open about viewing pornography online, it is still, to some extent, a hidden addiction in many relationships.

The Kardashians Go To Therapy: What We Can Learn [EXPERT]
How well does your family communicate?
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The Kardashians Go To Therapy: What We Can Learn

The family's innermost emotions and struggles came to light as they met with Dr. Nicki J. Monti, family therapist. Dr. Monti utilized the systems approach of family therapy to best understand the entire system of the family and how each individual member is impacted by the larger family system.

Deepen Intimacy By Disclosing Infidelity Respectfully
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Deepen Intimacy By Disclosing Infidelity Respectfully

In a recent study, at the University Of Notre Dame, Anita Kelly, a Psychology Professor, reported that when peoples lies went up during the week, their health went down. Conversely, she reported that when people’s lies decreased, their overall health improved. This is amazing news, connecting our emotional life with our physical wellbeing. Anyone who has ever attended a 12 step meeting knows that addiction and lies go hand in hand.

5 Steps To Personal Transformation
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5 Steps To Personal Transformation

Being a Counselor and meeting with many people, I became aware of the reluctance of people to share how their sexual lives were going. Many times our sexual lives are following the same patterns that we are dealing with on a day to day basis in other areas of our life.  The problem is that many people carry shame and guilt about their behaviors and feel they must hold onto the secrets or the shame will feel overwhelming and they couldn’t possible handle it.   I have seen people weekly for a year building trust, before they feel comfortable enough to open up about sex

Dear. Dr. Romance: Every Time We Talk, I'm in Tears and He's Mad
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Dear. Dr. Romance: Every Time We Talk, I'm in Tears and He's Mad

Dear Dr. Romance: I have been married for 17 years and thought we had a great marriage. 10 years ago I got hurt and have had 6 back surgeries. At one point I would double up on meds and drink to ignore life. During this time my husband was an angel; until he discovered I was taking more meds and drinking. He was so repulsed that i was doing this to our family. He would talk to his friend (a girl) and began to have some feelings.

Got a Crappy Therapist
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Got a Crappy Therapist

Bad therapists happen. It is a fact. There is no screen in grad school that weeds out the therapists that shouldn't be therapists. Now, if you don't like your therapist - that can happen and in fact can at times be normal. I believe that when you enter my office, we engage in a dance, a dance that you have done over and over. My job is to help you see the dance steps that aren't working for you, that keep you from the life you want to live. But, that means, I have to learn to dance with you.

Why I Became a Helping Professional
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Why I Became a Helping Professional

by Dr. Lynda Klau All my life, it appeared that I was “on the right track,” so that by the time I was in my twenties I had achieved all of the trappings of conventional success: I was married, I had earned my PhD, was financially comfortable and traveled often. But always, deep within, I felt a haunting sense of incompletion—a pervasive longing for something I couldn’t name. 

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Tip: Approach marriage counseling like you would a regular doctor's appointment.
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"Marriage Counseling Is Not The Kiss Of Death"

Most people think of counseling as the kiss of death for relationships, but this couple opted to go for it anyway. And without that mindset. Now they're on the other side, and one wife is ready to share insights from their sessions with the shrink.

Dear Dr Romance: I Need a Good Self-Help Book
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Dear Dr Romance: I Need a Good Self-Help Book

Dear Dr. Romance: I congratulate you for your many helpful articles on the Internet. I would like to have your advice. I am male and in the last 25 years I had a therapy experience which lasted 3 1/2 years and left me with unresolved issues; shorter therapy experiences with different therapists, which I ended, because it seemed to be prolonged pointless therapy, for the sake of therapy. I am left with frustration from the futility of these experiences.

Dear Dr. Romance: I Was Tired of Being His "Booty Call"
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Dear Dr. Romance: I Was Tired of Being His "Booty Call"

Dear Dr. Romance: I'm at a loss as to what to do. I'm married to a man that I sleep in the same bed (our daughterco-sleeps with us) with but other than that not much else. We are in our thirties, and we've been married about two years but have been living togetherfor longer. In the beginning it was great, even after we got married we spent most of our time together. I got pregnant and we lost our first little girl when I was 8 months pregnant, and a couple months later I got pregnant with our little girl who's now two.

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You better hope that lipstick comes out in the wash.
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The One and Only Reason Men Cheat Revealed

As "The Pro Marriage Counselor" I have to tell you: There have been so many pop-articles recently about why men and woman cheat. These articles cite everything from so called “evolutionary psychology” studies to the unqualified opinions of celebrities to the actual North American and European infidelity rates. But just because Kim Kardashian or Ashton Kutcher and others say it, doesn't mean it's true!