My family wasn't the only one caught up in this idea of courtship. In the wake of the publication of I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris, a whole generation of Christian conservatives were booting modern dating out the door. There were rallies and conferences where we jammed out to Christian music and cheered when a speaker said things like, "Dating is of the devil!" or "No kissing before marriage!" We sighed when we heard stories about a couple sharing their first kiss on their wedding day. We weren't just pledging our virginity, we were pledging to stay away from dating, hand-holding, kissing and the opposite sex. We were pledging to prepare ourselves to be good wives by staying submissive to our parents until the day they handed us over to our husbands.
While there is a lot of noise about the death knell of marriage, statistics show that rates of divorce are declining and according to an AskMen.com poll, 75% of men and 63% 18- to 34-years say they believe in marriage and hope to be married some day. The Traditional Love blog returns to the core of what marriage means, examining the traditions of love from the inside out. Traditional Love will look at love, marriage and family, through the lens of faith and politics, exploring what it truly means to have a long-lasting relationship in the 21st century.
The other day, as I watched Laura Bush tell Larry King that she’s pro-choice and pro-gay marriage, I instantly pictured the Bushes having shouting matches at the dinner table, looking around furtively to make sure no one was witnessing the spat. Reading my thoughts, Larry asked Laura whether their politics were a source of friction between the couple. Unflinchingly, Laura said no. "I understand his viewpoint," she said. "I really do. I understand his viewpoint, and he understands mine." Really???
A recent study revealed that red states purchase more porn than blue states. While the differences weren't astronomical, Utah (home of Salt Lake City mormon settlement) enjoyed their staged O faces most with 5.47 adult content subscriptions per 1000 home broadband users. Red states like Montana and West Virginia also secured themselves a spot on the top ten as did true blue Hawaii and recently blue Florida. The ten lowest porn buying states were, not surprisingly, liberal. As Benjamin Edelman at Harvard Business School said, "Some of the people who are most outraged turn out to be consumers of the very things they claimed to be outraged by."
If Republican presidential candidate John McCain wants to energize his party, he'll have to pander to bigots and use gay rights as "wedge issues" to create divisiveness and friction among voters. Does that suggestion make you see red, too? It's the advice of an editor at the conservative magazine The Weekly Standard who spoke on the show "Fox News Sunday" about the McCain campaign. The liberal web site Think Progress reports that executive editor Fred Barnes said McCain can appeal to more conservative voters by selling out LGBT folks.
My boyfriend voted for Bush. Yes, for Bush. And he'd vote for him again if our Constitution allowed it. Now let me duck while you spit at me. No, please go ahead. Really, I'm used to it. When this happens—the attacks, the spittle—I sometimes enlist a coping strategy. I tune out and think back to when I discovered that J was one of Them.