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Expect to Succeed in Relationship: Be Intentional
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Expect to Succeed in Relationship: Be Intentional

When Bill and Christy decided to marry, they did so with excitement and uneasiness. Their love for each other was strong, and they had no trouble imagining a lifetime together. At the same time, both of them had come from families where the parents divorced after years of conflict. They knew the stress and grief of love gone wrong. They wanted something better, but they also wondered whether they had it in them to succeed. Were they doomed to repeat the patterns of their past? Was it fair for them to hope for something better?

Tips for Couples: Surviving the Holidays
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Tips for Couples: Surviving the Holidays

Hollywood understands human nature. Why else would there be so many movies that portray the holidays being "enjoyed" by so many dysfunctional families? Perhaps the greatest enjoyment is ours as we laugh at and cringe at other families' dealing with their "stuff". What makes these movies strike a chord with us is our personal experience with our own quirky families of origin and years of pleasantness and not-so-pleasantness around the proverbial family table. Let's just say, we've had our highs and lows!

Home for the Holidays: Survival Guide for Couples
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Home for the Holidays: Survival Guide for Couples

Hollywood understands human nature. Why else would there be so many movies that portray the holidays being "enjoyed" by so many dysfunctional families? Perhaps the greatest enjoyment is ours as we laugh at and cringe at other families' dealing with their "stuff". What makes these movies strike a chord with us is our personal experience with our own quirky families of origin and years of pleasantness and not-so-pleasantness around the proverbial family table. Let's just say, we've had our highs and lows!

This Kind Of Couple Fights Most About Money
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This Kind Of Couple Fights Most About Money

Money management is one of the most challenging aspects of being married. Should you open a joint bank account? How do you save for retirement? While there isn't a definitive right or wrong answer to these questions, the fact that some married couples are happier with their finances than others begs the question of why. To understand how incomes affect marriages, Mint.com conducted a survey comparing how young professionals (under 30, college educated, household income of over $50k), affluents (household income of over $100k), and the general populace divide their money. There are a lot of numbers involved, so we've summarized the most interesting data for you:

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Sister in Law Puts You Down

What makes your sister in law think she has the right to put you down? Why does she have to pick on you, when you've never done a thing to her? Your sister in law, who never thought you were good enough to marry her brother, snubs you at every opportunity, saying things like "You have gained a pound or 2, haven't you," or "What a lovely dress, did you get that on sale? It looks like last year's fashion." She carries herself as if she's far better than you, is overtly condescending, and in general makes you want to scream! When you complain to your husband, he laughs and says "Oh, hey – don't take it so seriously, that's just the way she is." Argh, no help there. How do you deal with her?

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Dealing with Porn - His

What is it about the sight of your man ogling T & A spread naked in a magazine that makes you crazy? Why is it your boyfriend drooling over an air-brushed centerfold shatters your self esteem? You're going along quite nicely in your relationship, until you discover his stash of porn magazines. You throw them away – and he's fine with it. Only 2 months later, you catch him hungrily watching a porn movie in the middle of the afternoon. Suddenly, you're finding porn magazines everywhere. You're devastated. He promises to stop – he loves you and says sex with you is terrific - but somehow the porn keeps cropping up. What do you do? 1) Quit taking it personally. For a lot of guys, sex is a very big deal. Not just sex with a person – but sex – as a drive, as a preoccupation. Porn is a way of dealing with sex, not a substitute for making love with you (unless your love life is in trouble, but that's another story). 2) Make a choice. You have 3 to choose from:

Be masculine - she craves it!
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Be masculine - she craves it!

Very often when women are in chaos, they give messages of, ‘Stay away, I don’t need you,’ while they crave just the opposite. Is it a test? - possibly. But it is more about fear of disappointment and self-protection.

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Can Cohabitation Be Too Close For Comfort?

Over the weekend, my husband and I moved from our cramped, rundown, one-bedroom apartment near crowded Times Square in Manhattan, to a spacious, gut-rehabbed, state-of-the-art two-bedroom brownstone on a quiet, tree-lined street in Brooklyn. It was a long time coming, and in the weeks leading up to the move—the very first move Drew and I have ever made together—I wondered if we'd even make it to our first wedding anniversary next month. Few things in life challenge a relationship quite like moving does, but I'm happy to report we survived the hurdle.

Boundaries, Self-Esteem, & Magic!
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Boundaries, Self-Esteem, & Magic!

Boundaries are the invisible lines that separate you from me. Boundaries are limits we set for ourselves to keep us emotionally, physically, and spiritually safe. Sad to say, but many people don’t know anything about boundaries because it’s not something learned in school and is rarely talked about in social circles. Prestigious universities and higher institutions of learning don’t teach boundaries as a subject, yet it’s an essential component to health and success. Boundaries are your indisputable limits that pertain to your comfort level in all areas of your life. There are many forms of boundaries including physical, emotional, sexual, social, financial, intellectual, and spiritual. Boundaries are limits you set to maintain your safety, health and integrity. Boundaries help you to determine your feelings, needs, wants, responsibilities, and identity from others.

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Parenting Conflict? Make Sure Your Kid Wins

Not having to win is a pretty good quality when one is part of a couple, especially when that couple has to parent together and, by the way, also wants to stay in love. We've disagreed plenty over the years about child-rearing issues—and still do. Yet we usually manage to be sure that it's the kids who win in the end.