Recently I heard a quote that got right to the heart of conflict and how to resolve it. I’m paraphrasing, but it was along the lines of “conflict does not rise out of a clash of good and bad, it rises out of a clash of good and good.” In other words, each conflicting party always believes their position is good and right, putting to rest the notion of “good vs. evil.” With that perspective in mind, it may become easier to resolve conflict at work, home or anywhere you encounter it.
Years ago, I was madly in love with a woman I’ll call Sarah. The first time I went to her house, I was won over by the huge unabridged dictionary that had a permanent home on her dining room table. When she took me to a raptor center, and then to see a rainbow out over a field of sunflowers at dusk, I knew she was the woman for me. It also didn’t hurt that Sarah was one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen, in a butch/tomboi kind of way.
We all know that fighting hurts our relationships - yet endless hours of "processing" can be just as bad. So what's a couple to do? No one really believes that responding to conflict by yelling, storming out, giving each other the “silent treatment,” or trying to stuff our feelings down is a good idea (though sometimes it's all we know how to do.) Obviously, direct communication seems like a much better alternative – and since lesbians and queer women care a great deal about our relationships, many of us have worked very hard to learn to nam
So you're unhappy with your partner. You've probably tried to get them to change numerous times, right? If that didn't work, consider this: you are the problem. This relationship coach offers 5 ways you can alter your ways and move forward together. Bottom line: be the change you want to see.
Everyone should strive to treat others with kindness...up to a point. Perhaps you grew up with the notion instilled in you that treating others well begets the same; however, that doesn't always work, and this personal development coach explains why.
Everyone has their own prejudices and preconceived ideas of what certain groups of people are about. At times we are more aware of these ideas; at times we try to hide them; however, when we are completely honest, we have to acknowledge how these affect our perceptions. Only in doing so, do we have the possibility of truly understanding ourselves and then be able to affect how we interact with others.
When your partner is angry or controlling, what do you do? According to our expert, this is the healthiest thing you can do in a tumultuous relationship.
You never know what you might say in the heat of the moment. Use the do-over method to work through conflicts with your kids after an argument.
May 3 is National Lumpy Rug Day which is basically means it' time to do some spring cleaning and get rid of a lot of your junk. Literally, the lumps in the rug usually come from the furniture that has been sitting around in the same place for ages but in close relationships, those lumps come from sweeping things under the rug.
Welcome To The Last Secret in 7 Secrets To Mastering Communication SECRET #7 - CELEBRATE YOU! Are you one of those people-pleasing women who puts everyone first? Do you have trouble carving out time for yourself? Maybe deep down you're wondering why others seem to shine and feel like something is terribly lacking in your life.
Welcome back to 7 Secrets To Mastering Communication! SECRET #6 - COLLABORATE “The secret is to gang up on the problem, rather than each other.” ~Thomas Stallkamp Change. Do you thrive on it or relish the status quo?
As I have mentioned before in this series (The Eight Simple Rules to Managing Conflict), the biggest key to effectively resolving conflict is preparation. When we have time to prepare we do much better in resolving conflict than when it is thrust upon us and all we can do is react. When I mediate conflicts, I include a preparation and coaching phase with both parties individually before I ever bring them together. This added phase is critical to a successful mediation, resulting in both parties being prepared, goal-focused, and ready for resolution.