Resolve Conflict At Home, At Work, Everywhere
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Resolve Conflict At Home, At Work, Everywhere

Recently I heard a quote that got right to the heart of conflict and how to resolve it.  I’m paraphrasing, but it was along the lines of “conflict does not rise out of a clash of good and bad, it rises out of a clash of good and good.”  In other words, each conflicting party always believes their position is good and right, putting to rest the notion of “good vs. evil.”  With that perspective in mind, it may become easier to resolve conflict at work, home or anywhere you encounter it.

Lesbians: Stop Processing & Save Your Relationship!
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Lesbians: Stop Processing & Save Your Relationship!

Years ago, I was madly in love with a woman I’ll call Sarah. The first time I went to her house, I was won over by the huge unabridged dictionary that had a permanent home on her dining room table. When she took me to a raptor center, and then to see a rainbow out over a field of sunflowers at dusk, I knew she was the woman for me. It also didn’t hurt that Sarah was one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen, in a butch/tomboi kind of way.

Lesbians: Take Your Finger Off That Trigger!
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Lesbians: Take Your Finger Off That Trigger!

We all know that fighting hurts our relationships - yet endless hours of "processing" can be just as bad. So what's a couple to do? No one really believes that responding to conflict by yelling, storming out, giving each other the “silent treatment,” or trying to stuff our feelings down is a good idea (though sometimes it's all we know how to do.) Obviously, direct communication seems like a much better alternative – and since lesbians and queer women care a great deal about our relationships, many of us have worked very hard to learn to nam

Does Niceness Get A Closed Person Open?
Are you being nice or an enabler?
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Does Niceness Get A Closed Person Open?

Everyone should strive to treat others with kindness...up to a point. Perhaps you grew up with the notion instilled in you that treating others well begets the same; however, that doesn't always work, and this personal development coach explains why.

Surprising Evangelical Views on Homosexuality May Teach Us All
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Surprising Evangelical Views on Homosexuality May Teach Us All

Everyone has their own prejudices and preconceived ideas of what certain groups of people are about. At times we are more aware of these ideas; at times we try to hide them; however, when we are completely honest, we have to acknowledge how these affect our perceptions. Only in doing so, do we have the possibility of truly understanding ourselves and then be able to affect how we interact with others.

How To Stop Sweeping Things Under The Rug
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How To Stop Sweeping Things Under The Rug

May 3 is National Lumpy Rug Day which is basically means it' time to do some spring cleaning and get rid of a lot of your junk. Literally, the lumps in the rug usually come from the furniture that has been sitting around in the same place for ages but in close relationships, those lumps come from sweeping things under the rug.