Does this sound like your family? You are a Type A personality. You’re driven, intense and focused primarily on your career. You tend to look at yourself as having to be perfect, are impatient with co-workers and subordinates who are slower than you or who don’t share your passion about their work and careers.
One of my good girlfriends suggest that I write down my feelings as I try to examine my relationship with a new man. So goes nothing! I've always wanted to be the cool girl. The girl that's never needed, zero drama, and has an amazing man to call her own. Instead, I find myself only able to put on a front and as a result I suffer alone with the consequences. It doesn't help that I think to much for my own good. So here's the latest brainbuster that plagues my mind whenever I find myself alone.
Client: My partner never lets me explain anything to him. It's so frustrating! He makes these statements that are blaming and attacking and then he won't listen to me when I'm trying to explain.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Nadia Persun, Ph.D. She married him because he was hardworking. She was considering divorce because he turned out to be a workaholic who was barely ever home. She loved his smile and sense of humor. Now she was blaming him for being bitter and sarcastic.
David Schnarch, PhD, founder of Crucible Therapy and author of Passionate Marriage, wrote about the two choice dilemma. I have to confess that when I read about it, I thought it was redundant. Of course a dilemma involves choosing between two things. Schnarch coined the phrase over a decade ago. He used the phrase to define what happens when you want two things to happen, but only one can actually happen.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Margarita Tartakovsy, M.S. Conflict gets a bad rap. We automatically assume that conflict will collapse a relationship. Some of us avoid conflict like the plague, thinking that if we close our eyes to a potential clash, it doesn’t exist.
How Focusing on your Own Emotional Business can Improve Conflict Resolution and Enhance Intimacy The factors that create and sustain a successful relationship can sometimes seem elusive. Particularly in the environment in which we find ourselves today… We are inundated with news of divorce, infidelity, cyber cheating, emotional affairs and so on.
Our little girl isn't looking for advice; she's looking to connect. And she does that through what she shares, expecting reciprocation. So in two-and-a-half years, she's managed to teach my husband more about communicating with women than I have.
It’s pretty easy to start a relationship. Most of us have done it many times. Here’s where the sticky part comes in: What do you do the first time you feel angry and you don’t want to come across as a bitch? Oh come on now. Tell the truth – at least to yourself. Somewhere inside you, you know you have to be real but...
Warning: The following statement may not make sense at first glance. The worst time to fight is when you’re mad. I know that might seem like a contradictory thought. However, when anger comes up it’s usually because there is an issue that needs addressing or a problem that needs solving. Anyone who’s ever had a fight, (which is pretty much anyone at all) knows the energy of anger itself is not conducive to problem solving. The best solutions just don’t flow from anger.
I’ve been writing a lot lately about fairy tale myths and other lies that lead people to have unrealistic expectations in their relationships. The last lie I want to address is the myth that a healthy relationship is free of conflict. In other words, that Happily Ever After means you never fight. In my experience, the only romantic relationships that are free of conflict are the ones that don’t communicate their true feelings.
