A Surprising [And Magical] Perspective On Your Marriage
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A Surprising [And Magical] Perspective On Your Marriage

Every couple has some aggravations with their relationship that seem to defy understanding. “Why in the heck does he/she keep doing that when it is guaranteed to start an argument?” Sometimes these puzzles are hard to figure out. But if you ask different questions or ask them in a different way, you might get a new insight about why these things happen. This takes some detective work but the effort is worthwhile to increase understanding and perhaps avoid some of those common relationship annoyances.

3 Rules For 'Dropping A Bomb' On Your Significant Other [EXPERT]
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3 Rules For 'Dropping A Bomb' On Your Significant Other

How do you drop bomb of sudden, unexpected and quite possibly undesirable information on someone you care about without behaving like a cruel, dispassionate ogre? What if you're the unfortunate recipient of the aforementioned bomb? How do you respond with compassion instead of setting off a furious chain reaction?

Stop Fighting! 4 Ways To Avoid An Argument [EXPERT]
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Stop Fighting! 4 Ways To Avoid An Argument

Most arguments begin from a lack of clarity, a miscommunication or a false belief. Couples argue when they feel misunderstood or under-appreciated. These dynamics can lead to disconnection and resentment if they aren't cleared up. To clean up an old argument, or to avoid a new one, here are four ways.

8 Signs You May Be In An Abusive Relationship
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8 Signs You May Be In An Abusive Relationship

Gone are the days where abusive relationships are handled by solely requiring a change in the behavior of the abuser. Relationship Violence is a dynamic that must be addressed by each partner. If you recognize yourself or your partner in the signs below, you may be headed for relationship violence. Many Abusive Relationships Share These Patterns: 1. If one partner is hardly ever angry, and the other partner is often very angry.

How Compatible Are You and Your Partner?
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How Compatible Are You and Your Partner?

Do you argue over money? Will Money Ruin Your Relationship? [EXPERT] Are you fighting over sex? Do you have different ideas about how much time you should spend together and apart? Do you squabble over extended family and friends? Is one of you daring and reckless, while the other wants to play things safe? Does one of you want to be right all the time? Does one of you want to always be in control? Do you disagree about the fun activities in your life?

Conflicts Related to Having a Spouse with Diabetes
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Conflicts Related to Having a Spouse with Diabetes

Conflicts between spouses related to a new diagnosis of diabetes People with Diabetes (Type I or Type 2) receive extensive education about their lifestyle including their diet and exercise regimen. Sometimes the spouse is included in the education process, sometimes not. The spouse often struggles with having to treat his partner’s hypoglycemia, worries about complications and concern about his partner testing the sugar, following the diet and doing everything he or she can do to take care of him or herself.

Is The Honeymoon Over?
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Is The Honeymoon Over?

One question that comes up often in my practice as a couples therapist is the issue of "falling out of love." You’ve been in love with someone for 6-12 months, maybe longer, and you start to wonder whether this is going to last. Are you going to stay together, settle down, or is it time to move on? If the latter is on your mind, what happened? Sister Souls

Conflict In The Family: 4 Lessons From Maundy Thursday
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Conflict In The Family: 4 Lessons From Maundy Thursday

If you are like most people, you experience some form of conflict within your family whether it is just two of you, involves children or even the extended family.  Sometimes this conflict can be  just in the situation, but there are also times that it runs deeper.  There are even times that trust has been severely broken and you do not trust whether another will live up to the support that they talk about or whether another will directly do you harm by betraying you.  So, what should you do when you find yourself in such a spot?  

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What do you do more of: Freeze, Fight or Flee?
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How Do You Handle Conflict?

None of the three Conflict Personality Types are bad or wrong. However, they all presuppose that conflict warrants a red-alert warning to the system, as would be the case if a tiger with yard-long claws was running you down. Often, conflict, although admittedly uncomfortable, is a huge opportunity for some part of the relationship dynamic to be shaken loose and upgraded. We often miss or overlook the opportunity entirely, so busy are we trying to maintain our safety from the perceived threat by Freezing, Fighting or Fleeing.