There are usually some reasons for your partner’s puzzling behavior. Find out how to decode them.
Every couple has some aggravations with their relationship that seem to defy understanding. “Why in the heck does he/she keep doing that when it is guaranteed to start an argument?”
Sometimes these puzzles are hard to figure out. But if you ask different questions or ask them in a different way, you might get a new insight about why these things happen.
This takes some detective work but the effort is worthwhile to increase understanding and perhaps avoid some of those common relationship annoyances.
How do you drop bomb of sudden, unexpected and quite possibly undesirable information on someone you care about without behaving like a cruel, dispassionate ogre? What if you're the unfortunate recipient of the aforementioned bomb? How do you respond with compassion instead of setting off a furious chain reaction?
Prevent your next couple's quarrel in 4 simple steps.
Most arguments begin from a lack of clarity, a miscommunication or a false belief. Couples argue when they feel misunderstood or under-appreciated. These dynamics can lead to disconnection and resentment if they aren't cleared up. To clean up an old argument, or to avoid a new one, here are four ways.
Before you can heal an unhealthy relationship, you need to be able to recognize the patterns.
Gone are the days where abusive relationships are handled by solely requiring a change in the behavior of the abuser. Relationship Violence is a dynamic that must be addressed by each partner. If you recognize yourself or your partner in the signs below, you may be headed for relationship violence.
Many Abusive Relationships Share These Patterns:
1. If one partner is hardly ever angry, and the other partner is often very angry.
Her parents object — a critical challenge for an interfaith couple.
A distraught 21-year-old respectful and responsible young Indian woman asks whether it is wrong to go ahead and marry the man she loves even though her parents object. Nita has discussed this with them and their only objection is that this otherwise outstanding young man comes from a different religious background than she does.
What are the things you argue about? Where are the disagreements? The small resentments?
Do you argue over money? Will Money Ruin Your Relationship? [EXPERT] Are you fighting over sex? Do you have different ideas about how much time you should spend together and apart? Do you squabble over extended family and friends? Is one of you daring and reckless, while the other wants to play things safe? Does one of you want to be right all the time? Does one of you want to always be in control? Do you disagree about the fun activities in your life?
Discover the deeper issues behind most infidelity.
Megan contacted me for counseling because she had just found out that her husband, Jim, was having an affair. Although she was feeling hurt and angry, she didn't feel justified in getting too hurt and angry because she had also been having an affair.
Diabetes causes difficulty for spouses who often are not included in Diabetes education process.
Conflicts between spouses related to a new diagnosis of diabetes
People with Diabetes (Type I or Type 2) receive extensive education about their lifestyle including their diet and exercise regimen. Sometimes the spouse is included in the education process, sometimes not. The spouse often struggles with having to treat his partner’s hypoglycemia, worries about complications and concern about his partner testing the sugar, following the diet and doing everything he or she can do to take care of him or herself.
Why your doubts about the relationship may be a sign of growth rather than trouble
One question that comes up often in my practice as a couples therapist is the issue of "falling out of love." You’ve been in love with someone for 6-12 months, maybe longer, and you start to wonder whether this is going to last. Are you going to stay together, settle down, or is it time to move on? If the latter is on your mind, what happened?