When problems arise in partnerships, sometimes it seems easier to keep them to yourself, but all that pent up resentment is poison for your relationship. Use these 5 effective communication tips to help you and your partner get things back on track in a healthy, happy way.
CONFLICT IN RELATIONSHIPS
We've all been there. One minute life is going along as normal, and the next minute, some seemingly small thing has set us off. She left a dirty dish in the sink again! She's driving too fast, after I asked her not to! She never does her share of the cleanup! Suddenly, our anger swells, and knocks us off-balance.
Years ago, I was madly in love with a woman I’ll call Sarah. The first time I went to her house, I was won over by the huge unabridged dictionary that had a permanent home on her dining room table. When she took me to a raptor center, and then to see a rainbow out over a field of sunflowers at dusk, I knew she was the woman for me. It also didn’t hurt that Sarah was one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen, in a butch/tomboi kind of way.
We all know that fighting hurts our relationships - yet endless hours of "processing" can be just as bad. So what's a couple to do? No one really believes that responding to conflict by yelling, storming out, giving each other the “silent treatment,” or trying to stuff our feelings down is a good idea (though sometimes it's all we know how to do.) Obviously, direct communication seems like a much better alternative – and since lesbians and queer women care a great deal about our relationships, many of us have worked very hard to learn to nam
Relationship therapist Dr. Rhoberta Shaler share the number one things couples should NEVER do. Read on to learn what it is so you avoid it in your marriage.
Relationship expert Dr. Rhoberta Shaler separates the needy adults from the grown-ups and shares the main difference between the two... their fighting style. Read on to learn how you can "grow up" by adding three skills to your relationship repertoire.
We all know that when we are in a relationship, that everything is not going to be perfect and arguments will occur. This is okay and it is perfectly normal. Every person is different and no one is going to agree with a person 100% of the time, even if they are the most compatible couple in the world. One thing that I would like to address in this segment is that when these arguments occur, are you fighting fair or are you just fighting. Now arguing can be a really dangerous thing.
So you're unhappy with your partner. You've probably tried to get them to change numerous times, right? If that didn't work, consider this: you are the problem. This relationship coach offers 5 ways you can alter your ways and move forward together. Bottom line: be the change you want to see.
Becoming more self-aware and empathetic will lead to more effective communication within your relationships. And better communication makes for happier relationships — doesn't that sound nice?
This marriage educator explains how to reach a place of zen and stop enabling people to push your buttons!
One of the most challenging issues I confront in people who seek my help is perfectionism. These are people with very high standards who continually work to meet their goals-admirable qualities most would agree. When it is extreme, however, the relentless pursuit of achievement can lead to a great deal of misery for the individual and for the people in their lives. SIGNS OF A PERFECTIONIST
You never know what you might say in the heat of the moment. Use the do-over method to work through conflicts with your kids after an argument.