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After breakup – do you keep the ring – or give it back?

After breakup – do you keep the ring – or give it back?

NFL star, Mario Williams, and ex in ugly legal battle over $785k ring. What’s the right thing to do?

As a relationship coach, it’s definitely not my job to muck-rake or publicly weigh in on celebrity disputes when I don’t even know the people involved. It is my job, however, to look for “teachable moments” and try to provide value to people that will help create more conscious, loving and productive relationships. This is one of those moments. Also bear in mind, this is a relationship forum. I am not qualified, nor interested, in giving legal advice here.

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April fools!

April Fools! 7 Signs Your Guy Is Not 'The One'

Don't be fooled by love.

Now you're an adult, and you certainly don't want to be made a fool of. Yet, as you start to get involved with someone, it's a real possibility that the person you're seeing is really not the person with whom you're meant to spend the rest of your life.

What to Say and How to Say It: A Conflict Model That Works!

What to Say and How to Say It: A Conflict Model That Works!

Here is a two-step process for successfully resolving conflict between two people

As I have mentioned before in this series (The Eight Simple Rules to Managing Conflict), the biggest key to effectively resolving conflict is preparation. When we have time to prepare we do much better in resolving conflict than when it is thrust upon us and all we can do is react. When I mediate conflicts, I include a preparation and coaching phase with both parties individually before I ever bring them together. This added phase is critical to a successful mediation, resulting in both parties being prepared, goal-focused, and ready for resolution.

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Hmph.

Valentines Day Is Over ... Now What?

Eleven ways to keep the romance alive all year long.

Was Valentines Day special? Did it help you to remember that you mean something to your partner? I hope so. After all, that's the purpose of this day. However, now it's over. So, does that mean waiting another 364 days until you can be reminded of how special you are?

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Are the members of your house on the same page?

What's The State Of Your Union?

Three tips to help you compromise with your husband, even on the toughest issues.

If you were president and responsible for giving a "State of the Union" address about your relationship, what would you say?

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Do you fight fair?

5 Rules For Fighting Fair With Your Husband

Learn why successful conflict management is the key to matrimonial bliss.

In an article on Time.com, divorced couples offer lessons about what it takes to sustain a solid marriage. Relationships are tough; they require a whole lot more than love to make them succeed.

Always Ask for What You Need!

Always Ask for What You Need!

You wouldn't be in a conflict if an underlying need wasn't being met. Ask for what you need!

I had a love-hate relationship with my old boss. The love part was my incredible respect for this former Olympic gold medalist turned CEO of one of the leading professional development companies in the world. He was one of those people who could make an audience laugh, cry, and get inspired—all at the same time. People always came up to me after one of Terry’s amazing speeches to say how lucky I was to work for this man. I’d smile and say, “I sure am”, knowing I was lying through my teeth.

The Martial Art Of Listening

The Martial Art Of Listening

We already have the ability to diffuse an argument. It's the ability to listen and understand.

“I need a volunteer…Greg?” Wow, that was more like telling than asking, I thought. “Sure Ron, I’d be glad to volunteer.” Ron asked me to stand in front of the group as he approached. I knew he picked me for a reason but wasn’t quite sure why…that is until his hands hit my chest with such force that I stumbled back a couple of steps. “What are you doing?” I yelled, trying to regain my composure.

Take The Initiative

Take The Initiative

Conflict is not about who's right or wrong. If it's bothering us, then it is ours to resolve.

…In the event of a loss of cabin pressure, an oxygen mask will drop from above. Tighten the mask by pulling on the straps like this. If you are traveling with a child, place your mask on first before assisting them... Whenever I hear that part of the flight attendant’s pre-flight spiel, I always smile. I smile because my gut instinct would be to place the mask on a child first—had I not repetitively heard that directive. But I get the idea—save yourself so you can save others!

Stop Fighting! 4 Steps To Lovingly Disengaging

Stop Fighting! 4 Steps To Lovingly Disengaging

Do you want to keep fighting & perhaps destroying your relationship? There is another way.

What does it mean to lovingly disengage from conflict? How do you keep your heart open and lovingly disengage when someone close to you is saying things about you that aren't true, or saying things about others that aren't true, or saying things about themselves or about life that aren't true? How do you lovingly disengage when someone close to you is blaming you, complaining, withdrawing from you, resisting you or attacking you?

Breaking The Conflict Pattern

Breaking The Conflict Pattern

Conflict expert, Greg Giesen, discusses how to get unstuck in repeating old patterns

(A conversation during a coaching session) Me:       Tom, how are things going with Nancy? Tom:     Well…not that great actually. Me:       What do you mean? Last time we talked you were all excited about dating her. Tom:     I know. But things have changed. She’s blown me off.