Don't pretend to be a social butterfly. There is nothing wrong with being introverted!
We're women. We're famous for it. We hide our power, give it away, put ourselves down, hold ourselves back or we don't acknowledge our own real power. We don't always acknowledge our power to shine, to make the most of our lives, to accept and to feel that we truly deserve the best life for ourselves.
Are you excited about the notion of hopping into bed with your new guy? Slowly undressing, eyes locked, savoring each others bodies...lust so intense that you both might explode? Or does the thought of it make you so nervous you want to puke? For many of you—especially if you're dating in your 40's, 50's, or beyond—it's been a while since you stood naked in front of a man.
If you’ve been following the news, you’ve heard of Sandra Fluke, the Georgetown law student who testified before Democratic members of the House of Representatives on why she believed free contraception is essential. She got a beat down of a lashing from Rush Limbaugh who called her a slut and compared her to a prostitute. Rush sent out a public apology after his rant caused him to lose several sponsors for his radio show. This story represents on a large scale the deep wound of shame that so many feel when they speak up. Shame is the feeling that “something is wrong with me.” Shame pops up in three main areas for women: in speaking up and using our voice, in feeling comfortable with our bodies and our sensuality and in the way we mother and raise our children.
I am a life and health coach and my blogs tend to focus on fun stuff like vegetables and food labels and how to get out of your own way when you’re trying to lose weight. I never thought I’d wade into anything remotely political, but the recent events involving Georgetown law student, Sandra Fluke have provided such an important lesson, for anyone, about knowing who you are and rejecting other people’s version of you. On a much, much smaller scale, I see this in my coaching practice all the time. Fortunately, none of my clients have been called derogatory names on a national radio show! Have you ever been accused of doing something or being something that just wasn’t true?
Success in life, friendship, business, family dynamics and spiritual growth has self-confidence and self-esteem at the foundation. People who have a confidence in their personal worth seem to be magnets for success and happiness everywhere they go. As parents and caring adults you will want to share methods and techniques to build self-confidence with the young people in your circle of influence. One of the most important part of teaching a life-skill is to improve the concept in our own lives.
Knowing you look sexy when wearing a bikini in the warm spring and summer months is the best feeling in the world. C'mon you know it, girls -- that's why we spend our time on Pinterest pinning new workouts or flipping through magazines for celebrity inspiration.
When I was a young girl, I played with Barbie dolls. I had a whole collection of them; about 20 or so of all of these different forms of beautiful, blonde and skinny-curvy Barbies. I read the fairy tales of beautiful princesses being rescued by handsome wealthy powerful princes and was essentially brainwashed into believing that somehow my body, my hair and my eyes weren't good enough. I grew up believing that I needed to be taller, I needed to be skinny...and that somehow God didn't know that I was supposed to have straight hair!
Ever since I turned thirty I have had the irrational fear of waking up with a brand new tummy. I refer to this little fear as ‘my own personal Budda gut’. Long gone are the days when I could sip on a Slim Fast for two days and drop 10 pounds (jeez, I wish I was the weight I was when I thought I was fat!). Now that I am in my thirties, I have tried to adopt a healthier relationship with my body, and appreciate the curves that I have developed. I have also come to terms with the fact that maintaining my shape is a daily task, and loving my shape is a lifelong battle.
Many people identify approaching a potential partner as still being one of their biggest fears! In this article, I've decided to use my experience of getting over stage fright, to help you boost your confidence to approach that special person who’s caught your eye! I will never forget the first time I sang in public. I was put in a position where I was performing in front of an audience of about 120 people.
Every parent wants to raise their child to be strong. To be able to pick her or himself up after falling, shake off a poor grade at school or a mean comment from a "friend." The ability to do this and stay focused on your inner strength is an important lesson in childhood...and actually in life. With twenty years of working with parents and children, I have found there are certain things that resilient kids do and I share 3 key ones here.
Success in life, friendship, business, family dynamics and spiritual growth has self-confidence and self-esteem at the foundation. People who have a confidence in their personal worth seem to be magnets for success and happiness everywhere they go. As parents and caring adults, you will want to share methods and techniques to build self-confidence with the young people in your circle of influence. One of the most important part of teaching a life-skill is to improve the concept in our own lives. Here are three more tips to help build self-esteem and self-confidence in your kids.
Confidence is one of the sexiest things about a woman. It shows that she has other character traits that men love — the ability to stand up for herself, empowerment, good looks, and sassiness. Not only that, but confident women embrace their assertiveness over their own sexuality — and they know what they want.
Riding on top doesn’t mean crushing a man with all your weight. If it did, even a 110 pounds woman would be too heavy for most men to handle. Think about what you really do in the saddle. Don’t you use your thighs and, sometimes, your outstretched arms, to support you while your hips bob up and down or gyrate to an inner rhythm? The trick is doing enough strength training outside the bedroom to manage the workout that your legs get during sex.
Hypnotizing a woman is not the key to getting her to fall in love with you, or even to move past the "friendzone". The secret to connecting with the one you're falling for is to make sure both parties feel the same way. If she does not want to move past being friends, then no amount of hypnotizing is going to work. The other key to love success is gaining self-esteem in who you are and what you want.
What if you could hear men honestly share their thoughts and feelings about women, dating, sex and relationships? I had the opportunity to do that twice last week when I hosted and observed "man panels." If you've never been fortunate to hear a man panel, it works like this: we gather men — both single and married — and a facilitator asks them questions previously submitted by the participating women. The women listen as the men give their answers, yet they are not allowed to interact.