Are you getting the same feedback by different people? Do you seem to not attract many dates? Do you have the same results in different relationships? It might be an easy fix. You might just need to send out a different message!
There are some great lyrics in a Reba McEntire song, “Who I am is who I want to be.” Oh, if we could all live that way. The closer you get to that point, the more attractive you will be. Really! The closer you can get to that point the happier, more centered, more at peace, more able to love and be loved you’ll be. A very interesting and revealing exercise to do is to imagine going on a first date with you, sitting across the table from you… basically, putting yourself in your date’s shoes. What do you see? What do you feel? What qualities about you make you want to learn more, to be intrigued? What qualities are off-putting? This is a very difficult exercise but when done with real honesty, it can be amazingly useful. If you can’t do this for yourself, ask a close friend to go on a mock date with you. Have them play-act every stage, from first phone call on through each stage of a “real” date.
It sounds strange but smiling could be the key to finding your perfect partner. Research has consistently shown that people notice other people’s smiles almost straight away, meaning your smile could be the most important tool for creating a positive first impression.
If you're like most women you probably hold back during sex sometimes because you aren't 100 percent confident about the way your body looks. If you're the type who switches off the light and dives under the covers before your husband can see you, then you may be missing out. When you spend time worrying about what body parts may be too soft, too jiggly or just plain ol' too big, you end up ruining your own good time (and his).
Have you ever felt insecure? Do you often doubt and not trust yourself?
Last Thursday, we and 5.3 million others welcomed back our favorite fist-pumpers—only this time they're GTL'ing on the shores of Miami. If the premiere was but a slice of the upcoming guido cake, we're bound to love this season even more than the last. There's just something about the abnormally tan cast that keeps winning us over time and time again. With help from a recent Rolling Stone exclusive tell-all, we found 5 quotes that might explain why we fell for Italy’s finest. And if maybe we acted more like them (minus getting arrested for disorderly conduct), someone could fall for us, too.
Do you find that you're always criticizing and putting yourself down? Do you only see the bad qualities in yourself, never the good? If you answered yes to these questions, then you, like most people, are prone to self-criticism. We can be very judgmental when it comes to our own faults and shortcomings. Constantly thinking of ourselves as "not good enough" or stupid, can be detrimental to our health and livelihood. Negativity drains our energy as we continually try to live up to our own high standards of perfectionism while beating ourselves down at the same time.
Often women meet men to whom they are attracted, yet seem to “freeze” when the man shows he is interested. It’s not that she doesn’t know how to flirt, she has done her “flirt” thing effectively, but when, in fact, Mr. Available moves forward and reciprocates, she feels awkward, uncomfortable and confused. There are a variety of possible feelings to consider that maybe be at the cause of the “freeze” including:
“If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.” - Maya Angelou Coming across this quote got me fired up today. I love it because it’s so true. Sadly most people don’t act as if it is. Ms. Angelou’s quote might seem simplistic to some of you reading this post, but I can assure you it really is that simple. You may feel like you’re the victim of your life. In reality you are the creator. Believe it. It’s true. How you respond and react to what happens in your life makes all the difference. You may not be able to control everything that happens, none of us can, but you do have control over how you react to what happens. Are your reactions/responses serving you or harming you? Is your attitude holding you back or moving your forward? You get to choose. Choose wisely. Think about your life and what you’d like to change. What have you tolerated for too long? Now is the time to say enough is enough!