When's the last time you felt super confident and sexy? Maybe it was a night out with friends or a romantic date with your love. If you feel it's been too long since you've "wowed" a crowd, read these 8 YourTango Expert tips on how to amp up your attractiveness. YourTango Experts provide advice on looking and feeling your best.
People might associate college life with pizza and promiscuity, but according to a paper published in the Journal of Personality, students would rather receive an ego boost (from compliments and good grades) than have sex. Incidentally, ego boosts also trump favorite foods, which actually makes sense considering how closely hunger and sexual compulsions are compared.
Women have the mistaken belief that by always putting a man's needs first, doing what he wants and taking care of him, he will fall in love with them. This actually has the opposite effect. You may be great in bed, hotter than Halle Berry, sweet, sexy and supportive, but he will still not want to make a commitment if you never say that word. That one word is "No."
Recently I had a match that just got to me...or should I say, I let him get to me. He was funny, sensual and had this artistic endeavor that just made me REALLY want to get to know him. He seemed very focused on sex whereas I was focused on creating that deep connection through talking and meeting and getting to know each other, you know, the adult stuff. Our emails were interesting and we really touched on the more serious subjects but again sex was his constant topic.
Three years ago, when I first started dating after divorce, I felt like I’d arrived on another planet. Not just cause I had no idea how to date again, but because it quickly became apparent that a new ‘phenomena’ had come to town since I’d last visited: Young Men Were Seeking Older Women. And oh yeah - their holsters were full! Dating, Sex and the Older Woman
There are some great lyrics in a Reba McEntire song, “Who I am is who I want to be.” Oh, if we could all live that way. The closer you get to that point, the more attractive you will be. Really! The closer you can get to that point the happier, more centered, more at peace, more able to love and be loved you’ll be. A very interesting and revealing exercise to do is to imagine going on a first date with you, sitting across the table from you… basically, putting yourself in your date’s shoes. What do you see? What do you feel? What qualities about you make you want to learn more, to be intrigued? What qualities are off-putting? This is a very difficult exercise but when done with real honesty, it can be amazingly useful. If you can’t do this for yourself, ask a close friend to go on a mock date with you. Have them play-act every stage, from first phone call on through each stage of a “real” date.
It sounds strange but smiling could be the key to finding your perfect partner. Research has consistently shown that people notice other people’s smiles almost straight away, meaning your smile could be the most important tool for creating a positive first impression.
If you're like most women you probably hold back during sex sometimes because you aren't 100 percent confident about the way your body looks. If you're the type who switches off the light and dives under the covers before your husband can see you, then you may be missing out. When you spend time worrying about what body parts may be too soft, too jiggly or just plain ol' too big, you end up ruining your own good time (and his).
Have you ever felt insecure? Do you often doubt and not trust yourself?