At first it might have been charming: he orders for you on dates, wards off creepy guys at the bar, wants to protect you. What girl doesn't like being taken care of? But there's a thin line between wanting what's best for you and deciding what's best for you. Here are 5 signs the man you're dating is a control freak.
Last night, Melanie Gorman of YourTango and Dating Makeover Coach Kira Sabin teamed up with Rachel Greenwald—the author of Have Him at Hello—for the third telechat in our Girls' Night In teleseries. After putting on our jammies and pouring some wine, we settled in as Gorman and Sabin grilled Greenwald on what we all wanted to know most: Why didn't he call?
We here at YourTango love to love. But, now that Earth Day is fast approaching, we can't help but wonder: can we sustain love while also loving the Earth? According to experts such as Ethan Imboden, the founder of Jimmyjane, and Stefanie Iris Weiss, the author of Eco-Sex, the answer is a resounding yes. After all, when we're good to the environment, we tend to be—by extension—good to our bodies. And when we're good to our bodies, others take notice.
It's 2010. Everybody and their father has admitted to using and enjoying sex toys. We gals, in particular, can attend nary a girl's night, book club meeting or parent-teacher conference without ultimately comparing favorite vibrators. But we all know, like sex itself, vibrators can be totally awesome or frightening and weird. A sex toy designer divulges the newest and weirdest in adult toy innovation. Here at Lemondrop we're often like, "Hey, what gives, sex industry? Who invents this stuff?" Answer: Chad Braverman. Well, not just Chad. But he's an actual "adult novelty" designer (for venerable house of naughty-bit ticklers, Doc Johnson), has actually won some awards for his R-rated creations, and he agreed to answer some of our silly questions
You may not have realized this, but men love boobs: their pillowy softness, the mesmerizing way in which they bounce, the responsiveness of the nips to both slight climate changes and soft caresses... So it stands to reason that the more boobage you have, the more of a man magnet you'd be. Right? We put Bust-Up Cups cleavage enhancers to the test. Did men notice?
If you had brain cancer, would you date a neurologist? Would you sleep with a chiropractor to ease your chronic back pain? Around my twentieth birthday, I was hit with a sudden onset of crippling depression and anxiety. After two years, several doctors and a veritable rainbow of colored mood-altering capsules, I still felt hopeless. With no cure in sight, I fell for a psychotherapist.
Evan Marc Katz shares five definitive reasons why it might not be a good idea to get back together with your ex.
Why do some women flirt with everyone—even men they don't like? Our writer explains: "It all started when I was an awkward, mercilessly ugly 12-year-old. And then I discovered what would drastically alter the direction of my life: a stack of Playboys in my step-grandfather's closet. I could master the art of the smoldering stare. I could pout my lips and trail my finger across my chest. I could do this! That day, a flirt was born."
Megan Capone, 34, had some experience with online dating when she first messaged now-husband Jim Capone on Match.com. "I thought he looked like a model," said the social media and marketing consultant and blogger. "I wrote, 'I'm impressed, how about you?'" Jim, 37, had been on Match for about six months and was taking a break from the site when he got Megan's message. "I wasn't even looking at the time," said Jim, who works for a financial software company. "She kind of tracked me down." The duo discovered they lived only five minutes from each other in Dracut, Mass., and grew up in neighboring towns with rival high school football teams. They started emailing almost daily and chatting on the phone after a week. Even though he was interested, Jim made Megan wait for a date. "Something I learned over the years is to be patient," he said. "We paced ourselves." When they met in person, they went to Barnes & Noble, then to an ice cream shop. It was while eating their treats that an endearing goof made Megan realize Jim was something special.
Sexual role-playing doesn't have to be about kinky sex and it doesn't mean that you are bored with your lover. Acting out fantasies can and should be about core relationship issues like communication, intimacy and acceptance, and can both signal and create strength in a relationship.
Why, we all seem to ask, do men always seem to zone out when we tell them about a bad day? And better yet, why do they say that they can't get enough of us and then ogle longingly at the next barely-dressed stranger to pass him by like she's a piece of meat? According to Louann Brizendine, M.D. and her new book The Male Brain, it's all part of the male mind, and he is NOT alone. Maybe mom was onto something during those times when all she had to say about your father was a grumbled, "he is such a man". Male minds do, indeed, work different than their female counterparts.
Have you ever felt you might benefit from a dating makeover? Is it because all the men you bring home from Pub 46 inexplicably prove to have drinking problems? Is it because you never seem to score a second date? Do you worry that maybe... possibly... you're coming on too strong? We here at YourTango work hard every day to bring you vital relationship tips and advice, but we were thinking it was about time to take things up a notch. Which is why we've paired up with Kira Sabin, the Dating Makeover Coach, to bring you the Girls' Night In Tele-Chat, a four-part teleseries in which we interview some big-name dating experts.
We were appalled to read that researchers are blaming Facebook, of all things, for increased syphilis outbreaks in the U.K. Last year, Durham, Sunderland, and Teesside, the regions where Facebook is most popular, reported four times more than the usual number of syphilis cases. In an interview with The Telegraph, Professor Peter Kelly, director of public health in Teesside, speculated that social networking websites have made it easier for people to meet strangers for casual sex.
In general, I'm not really a jealous person; in fact, a recurring fantasy is to watch whomever I'm seeing with another woman (I haven't done that yet—I like keeping it in the fantasy realm). But maybe I'm more jealous than I'd like to think, because it's taken meeting several of his friends for me to assess them individually, to get to know them, before I feel totally comfortable. Some of them ask him for back rubs, and the first time I saw him take his hands to another girl's muscles, I can't lie: it bothered me.
The authors of Undateable—a compendium of 311 things men do, say or wear that renders them... well... undateable—interviewed "hundreds of smart, funny, normal women" in an effort to pin down the top red flags and deal breakers men can be guilty of. Flipping through, however, we began to wonder if the average woman was rendering herself undateable... simply by being so judgy.
According to the Office of National Statistics, lip gloss has replaced lipstick as the must-have on-the-go beauty item. The Daily Mail refers to this switch as "recessionista fashion," and BBC News points to it as a sign of inflation. But is the economy the real cause of gloss's new reign?