I often hear women asking whether or not their relationship is the real thing. Wondering if the guy they’re with is the right one for them. Wondering what they should do. And in most cases, as soon as they start describing their situation, it becomes pretty clear that there’s a lot more going on in their situation than love. If there’s one mantra to make your own, it’s one that states it clearly and simply: real love is never complicated. Ever.
The Cycle of Being Single, Dating, in Relationships, Breaking Up, etc. Every relationship status (e.g. single, in a relationship, separated, engaged, married, divorced) presents opportunities for us to enjoy and embrace. At different times in my life, I wasn’t able to fully enjoy all of my relationship statuses. When I was single, I wanted to be in a relationship. When I was in a not-so-good relationship, I wanted to be single. When I experienced a painful breakup, I wanted to be in a good place as a single person.
I used to think that if something didn’t turn out right (cake batter or laundering a stained blouse, say) the way to apply a fix was to add something. More flour to the batter. An applique over the stain. I’d like to say those solutions worked, but we both know better. So why do we seek to add a BIG COMPLICATION to an already-complicated situation? I’m not talking returning a dog to the pound because he digs under the fence. Or changing your mind about that four grand worth of furniture.
Ever since we were in pre-kindergarten, Valentine's Day has been marked by cards, flowers, chocolate, and—depending on your luck—that One Special Person. But do you know why Valentine's Day is the way it is? Like 'em or loathe 'em, here we explain the holiday's most popular traditions.
Justin and Mila will knock uglies in 'Friends With Benefits' next week. Are you in a complicated relationship right now or have you been? Tell us what it's like.
Constant Criticism: It creeps into a relationship, eventually killing any warm and loving feelings a woman might have for her guy. The constant need to nit-pick and criticize every little thing she is doing "wrong" will usually a.) knock the wind out of her sails until she feels depleted and then b.), she is going to start caring less about putting any effort into the relationship until c.) she realizes she must protect herself and self esteem, and heads for the door. There really is something to be said for, "If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything."
Every relationship comes to a crossroads when both people have to decide what type of commitment they want, if at all. Some of us have clear rules and don't waste time playing around any longer than three months; while, others hang on for years. But, there is no need to squander precious time with someone who isn't ready to step up.
Next month, I will be married for 23 years and, Facebook, I've got news: as far as status goes, Married and It's Complicated are not two separate categories. Women who have been married for more than a few years, and especially those with children, know this fundamental truth.
Saturday was my day to go to traffic school. I had to report there before November so my ticket for driving 50 in a 30 doesn't go on my record. When I reported to the class at 8:30 that morning, I never thought I would leave with information to help my marriage. Here is some of what I learned.
What happens when two grown adults who like to dress up on Halloween have a child? Well, he gets to be part of the madness, until he wants to begin deciding for himself what he wants to be for Halloween. What are his parents to do? Especially since he keeps changing his mind?
We are gathered here today to lay to rest some of the hardest-working, most tired "boy moves" that men have pulled in the history of dating. These lame and predictable maneuvers have been driving women insane for centuries, and after all this time, we women have decided to tell you a little something: We're on to you. We know these moves, we know what they mean (and what they actually mean), and we know that they're specially designed to make us feel crazy. We're done with them. Let us bow our heads for these top five most obnoxious boy moves, which I am hereby proclaiming to be dead on the battlefi
Our son just turned five, and it won’t be too long until he will be getting notes from little girls (or sending them himself) with “Do you like me? Check Yes, No, or Maybe (that middle box)” scrawled across the page. How are we supposed to guide him on this journey of love, sex and marriage? We have figured out a few things we think he should know for his journey.
Being close to 4th of July, I think about America, and the "American Dream". Images come to mind of people making a way for themselves, conquering the Wild West, unknown uncharted territories... Somehow it seems that we miss part of the American Dream today. The adventure of a great marriage – the building of that relationship, and not knowing whats around the bend... As soon as we hit a rough patch – it seems that the easiest thing to do is cut and run. But I want that American Dream. I want to celebrate 40 years of love and life with the woman I married. I want my grandchildren to show up at my 63rd anniversary with their kids. I believe its possible.