Author and researcher Sheril Kirshenbaum says there's a science behind K-I-S-S-I-N-G.
According to the matching hypothesis, each of us walks around with an idea of how socially desirable we are, and we tend to look for partners who are similar to us in desirability. The idea is that if we pursue someone similar to us, we have a better chance at a good outcome. However, according to recent research, the matching hypothesis may not be entirely supported.
When my husband of almost four years asked me if I thought we should divorce, I opened my laptop, pulled up my GQueues account and drew up a to-do list. I titled it My Crumbling Marriage, and tried to get to the bottom of things. Did we still love each other? Did we still want the same things? Why were we so unhappy lately?
Forget chemistry, similar values, having the same favorite movies or any of the usual signs we look for to see if a date may blossom into something long-term. What if the key to compatibility is in our words, or, more specifically, the words between our words?
I am in my late twenties, but I don’t really look like I am. On average, people will guess that I’m about seven years younger—and yes, I am fully aware that when I turn forty, I will appreciate this and recognize that it’s a good thing. At the moment, however, it can be frustrating. When it comes to dating, the men I meet often assume that I’m younger as well, which means that the ones who take an interest in me stay around the same age, while I get older, year after year. I’m still in the process of deciding how I feel about that.
The face gives us vital clues about the strengths and challenges that may be experienced within a relationship. Knowing more about each other prior to moving in together, gives couples a "heads up" about what to expect. For example: If you have wide set eyes and your partner has close set eyes, this could be an issue. You may see your close set eyed partner as being overly sensitive and very intense. Whereas you are more laid back and wondering why your partner is getting so upset. What was not an issue prior to moving in together could now become very annoying.
Let me paint you a picture. . . You sit on the lumpy lounge chair at the coffee shop, sipping your cappuccino while trying to look occupied reading today's local newspaper, your eyes periodically shifting to the front door of the shop, hoping to catch a quick glance of the man you'll be meeting for the first time. You've had a million first dates, it seems, but the nervous anticipation and excitement always seems to show itself through your sweaty palms and rapid heartbeat. What will this meeting be like? Could he be "The One?"
Would you rely on "heart-synching" to find your soul mate? Ramesh Rao, a professor of electrical and computer engineering at the University of California, seems to think you should. Rao is the leading researcher in heart-synching and finds it to be an accurate measure of how much two people are connecting on a physical and emotional level.
Dating can be an emotional, exhausting process. In fact, just thinking about dating is taxing… online dating, offline dating, speed dating, hook-ups, set-ups, make-ups, and breakups. Seriously. Could dating be any more exhausting?!
Do you know, off the top of your head, how your spouse likes his coffee? While a few decades of marriage sounds like plenty of time for spouses to figure out each others' favorite breakfast foods or movies, a new study finds that couples who have been married for forty years know less about each others' preferences than couples who have been in committed relationships for one or two years.
Holy crap, we're in the middle of a crisis, y'all! Manliness is under attack! According to way too many articles to count in the last few months, men have turned into big, fat, commitment-phobic pansy asses. But I don't buy it. Here are 30 manly things I love that, as far as I can tell, haven't gone anywhere.
He was gung-ho for Obama. You wrote in your vote for Kucinich. You roll your eyes every time Sarah Palin opens her mouth. He hangs onto her every word. When it comes to politics, the two of you are at each other's throats. Is your relationship doomed? Should you give up now? Or is it possible that you just might find some common ground despite your differences, and end up going the distance?
First thing this morning I got a text from one of my friends, the kind I get all too often. "Met my future husband last night!" My response was my standard one: "Get back to me in three months." If I've learned one valuable thing from the dating whirligig I've been on for the last six years (give or take six months here or there), it's that you must wait at least three months before getting excited about the long-term possibilities of a new person.
Do you always go for hot, brilliant men? Are you still single because you haven't found the hot, brilliant man who wants to be your husband? Yeah. You better read this article...
I love how calmly my husband reacts when his car is broadsided by a bicycle. I love how he’s ready to hug me well before I’m done yelling during a fight. But I don't love how his chill approach to life has him giving the kids a raised eyebrow and a head shake when I think they need a timeout. Honestly? Sometimes it sucks being the heavy. Every once in awhile, I'd like to be the one letting the kids off the hook while he enforces the discipline. It just never works out that way.
This week it was reported that Elisabeth Moss officially filed for divorce from her husband of less then a year Saturday Night Live actor Fred Armisen. Nobody knows for sure why the two split, but it's rumored that Elisabeth, a Scientologist, was more interested in the religion then her own marriage. Is Scientology toxic to relationships?