It would be funny if it weren't so tragic. A recent CU grad and his girlfriend had been dating for almost three years and things were going very well. You could say they were "serious." Neither one had ever dated anyone else for this long. They enjoyed silly games, working out and healthy debates about editorials in the paper. They knew a lot of the same people, and were committed to finding "the one" and starting a family ... and then five roast beef sandwiches ruined everything.
Sexual attraction is one of those things that we all want to feel with our partners. There is nothing like that electrical current that draws two people together like magnets. But when it comes to the overall success and failure of long-term relationships, how important is that attraction when compared to deep friendship between partners?
Many people would say that there are dangers of dating a criminal and even advocate checking criminal records of online daters. In many situations where your potential date is a criminal there is reason to be cautious. Sometimes this fact will be a good reason to not pursue a relationship or even a date. In other situations, you may still be interested in dating the criminal, but you will need to exercise certain precautions.
We all know that dating over 40 can be a bit of a jungle with challenges, surprises and pitfalls. I'm sure you've encountered your share of "pingers" — the disappearing men, needy men and players as you meet single men. I get it, and you belong to a large, loving sisterhood. But it's not only us gals who have dating disasters ... Men have their fair share of icky, confusing, ego-crushing experiences too. Previously, I've introduced you to The Princess and The 18 Year Old but today, you'll learn about the Scaredy Cat. Deep down, the Scaredy Cat feels unworthy and afraid to receive love and attention, especially from potential romantic partners. She has been wounded by past relationships and hasn't been able to move on emotionally. While she carries these wounds below the surface and aren't there for all to see, given the proper trigger (like a man not calling exactly when he says he will), her fear can take center stage at a moment's notice.
Are you in a stay-or-go situation? Would you like a hit of psychic wisdom to let you know what to do next? Here are five key questions to consider if you're wondering if your relationship is over.
Despite all the opposition Miley and Liam are getting from the press, this engagement is a great call. Yes, it's true that they are very young. Yes, they are celebrities, and yes, the odds are seriously against this union. This is especially true if we were to listen to public opinion, a bevy of relationship experts, over-protective parents or the ridiculously inaccurate divorce rate statistics.
I took nine years of ballet lessons, but wasn't allowed to go on full pointe, becase as I heard my teacher whisper to my mom, "She doesn't have the ability." Crushing for an 12-year-old, but not a surprise since I was always hidden in the back row during recitals and my parents described my performance as "enthusiastic."
In 2002 Wired Magazine said, “twenty years from now, the idea that someone looking for love won’t look for it online will be silly, akin to skipping the card catalog to instead wander the stacks…” Only 10 years have passed, but dating digitally is a massive movement. In fact, one in five relationships begin on an online dating site. And as the sheer number of users and couples grow in the online dating industry, innovation follows.
"Is this as good as it gets? Is this what love really is? There has to be something I’m not doing right.” “I’m over 40 and too old for love. I never get a second date and besides, all the good ones are taken anyway.” And the list of debilitating dating discussions just goes on and on. Sounds pretty dismal, doesn’t it? Are you ready to dig deep and become more conscious? "Consciousness comes when we stop judging ourselves and others."
There is a myth that couples talk about all of the time in my office. They tell me that they are living together to see if they are compatible. I am sure they are sincere in their effort to make sure they can tolerate one another, but living together is not going to reveal that. According to the literature, couples who are happily married aren’t always compatible. In fact, there is no correlation between being happily married and how compatible you are.