Living resiliently represents a whole new way of being and doing. In this way, resilience isn't just for the hard times...it's for all times. Empowering us to live, love, and work adventurously in the face of change, it builds a well from which we can draw for the rest of our lives.
Recently, my son and his long-time girlfriend, with whom I had a close relationship, broke up and although these things happen usually for the best, I couldn’t help but feel saddened by the news. I could not imagine just letting her slip out of my life as if she had never been there and mattered, so I decided to give her a compassion call. Well, according to some, you would have thought that this was absolutely the worst imaginable decision I could have ever made! I heard things like this:
Too often we think of listening as waiting for the other person to stop talking so we can get our opinion, feelings, or thoughts expressed. Although this is a common habit, with your willingness and steady practice you can develop the very fundamental skill of listening into a true art form, one that conveys compassion for the other. Here I offer three simple steps to work with: Hearing, Absorbing, and Reflecting.
As women, it is crucial to be surrounded by beauty. It’s also a sign of auspiciousness. Your environment ‘talks’ to you on a daily basis, subtly influencing your perceptions of reality. Women tend to be more sensitive to their environments whether they’re conscious of it or not. Therefore, it is mandatory for you to program your environment to tell you the truth about who you are instead of allowing it to repeat negative habits or patterns.
Perhaps we've all had an intimate partner who has said or done things to us that seem simply unforgivable. Can you remember a circumstance where you spoke hurtful or hateful words, and later recognized that you did not really mean them? The context of your life affected the content of what you said. Maybe you were tired, afraid, angry, stressed, or feeling hurt. In that moment you just had to defend yourself, get some space, work through anxiety, or vent some frustration.
Good relationships don’t just happen. I’ve heard many of my clients state that, “If I have to work at it, then it’s not the right relationship.” This is not a true statement, any more than it’s true that you don’t have to work at good physical health through exercise, eating well, and stress reduction.
There’s no one on the planet who hasn’t been in a situation wherein tempers and/or emotions escalated – perhaps even dramatically – due to miscommunication or poor communication. When this has happened in your own life, you’ve likely looked back on it afterwards and wondered how things got so out of control. You might even have tried to determine who was to blame fr the bad communication , or perhaps you ended up pursuing avenues of explanation that resulted in self-doubt or justifications for the communication mishap and resulting behavior.
I know, I know...we live life at a whirlwind pace these days. It's easy to get caught up in it all...and a real challenge to stop instead to take in some of the smaller details. However, it is the inbetween moments where we find peace and kindness...both sources of feeling supported and cared for.
You’re walking down the street, enjoying a beautiful day when you step on something. It tugs at the bottom of your shoe. You look down to see what’s holding you back and roll your eyes. As you raise your foot up, a web of pink trails from the bottom of your shoe back toward the ground. 1. Notice when you feel as if you’re holding yourself back, stuck or stopped.
We all want happier relationships with the one we love, but we don't know how to make it happen. Here are 10 tips to get you started. Remember, you can get your free Get Acquainted session with Michelle by going to her web site and emailing her.
According to new research, an excess of incorrectly-expressed support is worse for your marriage than neglect. Just what is the "right" type of support, though?
The point is, when you're faced with a situation where you have to confront your man with his faults, be gentle and be specific. The male ego is a very fragile thing and the comprehending part of the male brain is very small. (Not that size matters, right? And, even if it does, it's not really a "fault", is it?) Don't be afraid to spell out exactly what you think your fella's fault is. Write it on the bottom of the toilet seat if you have to. He's sure to see it there, since there's 99% chance he never puts it down. At the same time, be compassionate when you're telling him. Most men want to please their mate, so if you confront him in an informal and easy-going manner (try being nude when you do it), he'll be much more willing to accept your position and change his faulty ways.