Trust Issues: How To Build Trust In Your Relationship
Listen to each others vulnerabilities with understanding and acceptance.
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13 Ways Your Life Will Flourish Once You Learn To Trust Again

Trust is a tricky thing. It has to be earned over time but can be lost in an instant. It is the most important way to foster love in a relationship. Relationship Expert Klara Brown shares her experience with trust issues and explains how first trusting ourselves can allow us to trust others.

Are You Being Angry Or In A Rage?
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Are You Being Angry Or In A Rage?

Chuck Lorre produced a TV show called Dharma and Greg. I video taped (remember VCR’s?) the first episode. At the end of the show, I saw a blip on the screen and wondered what kind of subliminal message was just zapped into my brain. Freeze framing the blip, I saw Chuck’s first “Vanity Card.” The opening line hooked me forever: “Thank you for videotaping “Dharma & Greg” and freeze-framing on my vanity card.” You can read all his cards at www.chucklorre.com. Here is one of those cards.

Catholic Marriage and the New Catholicism
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Catholic Marriage and the New Catholicism

My Interfaith Marriage Perspective On Easter Sunday, I attended Catholic mass with my wife. This would not seem unusual to most people, and we have attended Catholic services together since our marriage. I will title our life together as the new catholic marriage and the new catholicism.  What does make our situation more unique, however, is that I am of the Jewish faith. This dichotomy could have made our union impossible, had our love for each other not been so strong.

Exercise Your Left Prefrontal Lobe  - Emotional Fitness
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Exercise Your Left Prefrontal Lobe - Emotional Fitness

We know that exercising specific muscles causes them to grow stronger and that practicing physical skills like tennis or golf can help us improve those skills and make some of the movements familiar enough to be automatic.   We also know that regular practice of cognitive skills such as reading, writing, arithmetic or languages make us more proficient at those skills and "smarter" in terms of those valued abilities.  When it comes to emotions, however, we don't usually think of practice leading to proficiency despite the fact that such practices have been aro

7 Secrets To Mastering Communication Secret #2 - Compassion
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7 Secrets To Mastering Communication Secret #2 - Compassion

Welcome to my 7-Part Series, 7 Secrets To Mastering Communication SECRET #2 - Compassion “Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.” ~ Dalai Lama XIV Compassion means, “I understand and I get you.” It means I’m walking alongside you, not necessarily in your in your shoes because I cannot truly know what you are experiencing.

How to Never Feel Resentment Again
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How to Never Feel Resentment Again

Clients try to convince me that resentment naturally builds in relationships over time. They say so as if it’s a given. It’s not. George Pransky’s book The Relationship Handbook taught me the one, simple thing that leads to—and away from—resentment. When you focus on yourself and how their behavior affected you, you feel resentment. When your partner is away on a business trip and doesn’t call and you make it about you…

Warning: May Cause Real Communication!
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Warning: May Cause Real Communication!

Or how to listen so he'll talk and how to talk so she'll listen. Listening intently to another person may just be the most amazing gift you can offer. I used to work on the 24/7 suicide crisis line in France and we were trained in Carl Rogers non-directive empathetic listening skills. When a call would come in, I would greet the caller with, "Hello, SOS Amitié." And wait for the person to speak up. Sometimes it would take a rather long moment, moments in which hesitations and silences give a lot of information to the intuitive listener.

 Should You Defend A Liar You Love?
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Should You Defend A Liar You Love?

Now that Lance Armstrong has admitted to using performance-enhancing drugs during his years of cycling and Tour de France wins, it’s been brought to media attention that Sheryl Crow may have lied to protect his reputation. Although she denied it in public interviews, sources are convinced Crow must have known about his drug use because she was dating him for two years during his Tour de France racing days, and the two were even engaged during one of his wins.

Setting Your Intention
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Setting Your Intention

To understand intention, we must understand what matters most to us, for it is on our values that intention is based. When we set intention, we can become cognizant of aligning our values with our actions. Most of the time it happens subconsciously, but when we understand how intention is formed, we can consciously and purposefully align our actions with our values. Aligning our actions with our values creates a harmony in our lives that is invaluable...so how does one align the two?

The Power Of Being "Grokked"
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The Power Of Being "Grokked"

In 1961, author Robert A. Heinlein coined the term "grok" in his best-selling book, "Stranger in a Strange Land". The Oxford English Dictionary defines grok as "to understand intuitively or by empathy; to establish rapport with" and "to empathize or communicate sympathetically (with)."

How Can I Help During Christmas?
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How Can I Help During Christmas?

The post Thanksgiving season has been criticized as a time of greedy frenzy, when the balance sheets of retailers are swept into the black by waves of frantic shoppers bingeing on the illusions of good deals and marching to the mantra of “What can I get for Christmas?”  Although much of the shopping is ostensibly for gifts for others, part of the excitement is the prospect of winning a game with sellers, competing for the best “savings,” and being the first in your peer group to finish your Christmas shopping.