I've been reading a book I wish I'd had when my first child was born: "And Baby Makes Three," by John Gottman and Julie Schwarz Gottman. The authors write about how parents can keep their relationship strong as they adjust to the challenges of parenthood. Most of the book is good solid advice on fighting well: remember you're on the same side, work things through, take a break when you need to. All of the conflict resolution skills you learn before you have kids but forget when you're sleep-deprived. The Gottmans have an insightful chapter on parents' sex lives, too. What I found most interesting was that couples who adjusted well kept touching each other affectionately, even when their sex drives were low. Other "secrets of couples whose sex life is going well" include: accepting that things have changed, communicating, indulging in quickies, and making time for "gourmet sex."
13 yrs. and 3 boys later. Alone. A city trash man who is told I should be embarrassed by my job I am not! I have job Security! I appreciate a woman for who they are Not what they are. I hope a REAL relationship comes one day but sfter 13 yrs. it 's a longshot.
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Too good to leave - Too bad to stay
are some of you guys really ok with never having sex while your in a relationship? because that is exactly whats happening in my relationship right now. i asked my girlfriend before, and she told me that she is ok with not having sex ever that she can still be happy with me. i mean we have had sex before but because i wanted to and i always make the first move which upsets me because i don't want to make it seem like all i want her for is sex because thats not true, i love her and whenever that feeling is there then it leads to other things and then sex. this is so weird but gosh, i need help on this. i really don't understand her. she gets mad when i talk to her about this, she just says that we don't need to have sex to tell each other that we love each other but i don't know, im more of a touch intimacy person, and when the loving feeling is there, then i just show it by making love. help me out ladies? i think every relationship should have some fun in it right? because trust me this relationship is starting to bore me not just a little but a lot.
This post is about how I feel about an ex...we broke up in September of 2008. We were still "friends" the past few months, but I broke it off with him, because it was delaying the healing process.
Question: When in a long- distance relationship how do you maintain assurance?
selfishness frustration and ambiguity