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Life's Realizations

Life's Realizations

Okay, so recently I have found that what I want to do does not coincide with what the rest of the world is asking of me.  I decided I was on hiatus from the whole dating scene because it was not working out for me in the least bit and all of a sudden I have boys coming at me like it's the end of the world.  Not to be mean, but these boys based the fact that they liked me off of mere petty facts like my like's and dislike's rather than who I am as a person.  You can't just fall for someone who you just met and I'm not okay with that. Right now, my life is about having fun for me.  I've faced enough troubles through out high school to even want to bother with boys right now.  I'd rather make close friends and if something happens in let's say six months from now, great! Right now however, I'm so focused on me it's not even funny.

Feeling Betrayed.

So I was with this girl for 6 years even had a beautiful daughter with her. The relationship we had was some what good, I mean everytime we argued we end up making up, Til' she started going out alot, every weekend she was going out but I wasn't really trippin', then she got laidoff from work she was out almost everyday of the week. It was like I was sleeping with a ghost, one minute she's there the next she's gone and then to top it off she leaves my daughter with other people to watch while she out partyin'. It's been a month and half since she left, it's cool for the most part but everytime I lay in bed alone she tends to pop in my head then I start missin' her. Then I found out she was messing with someone else and that made me confused and more stressed out. I'm just happy that she left me with my daughter, she's 3 years old and the most smartest, beautiful, little girl in the world to me. Without her I wouldn't know how to handle this breakup. So I thank God through all this for understanding and letting me have daughter.Because now my daughter (Jayla Alysha El) is the only little woman in my life now and she's all I need to be happy.

Yay or Nay (Advice needed)?

Yay or Nay (Advice needed)?

So recently I decided to experience a couple online dating things and have also been going to a night club to keep options open.  Well in both ways, I've met two people and at this point I'm not sure I really want a boyfriend but I don't want to lead them on either.  I know that when I start to like people, i'll lead them on and then can get scared.  I know I shouldn't get scared but it happens.  I'm scared because I have NO experience. Anyways, so there's two boys at this point.  The one online I get along with really well and the one in real life I'm getting along with just as well.  I really would like to go on some dates this year.  Nothing serious, just fun.  But I guess my thing is, do these boys have the yay or nay quality for me :-/?