Okay, look. If there's one lesson I have learned from Blogging and living my life publicly it's been this: Don't date and blog. Here's the deal. Men hate drama. Even if it's good drama. They just hate it. They especially hate being a character in a woman's little drama. Blogging = drama. Worse, they hate hearing every innermost thought that we have when those thoughts mention "marriage" or "Prince Charming" or "The One." I once said I was smitten with a guy after a first date only to have our second date broken because he admitted to reading my blog and freaking out. Smitten. All I said was that I was smitten. He ran so fast he left skid marks on my blog. You'd think, being that I've immersed myself in this little dating world and positioned myself as an "expert" (I'm not) that I'd know that blogging about a man and getting all gushy after a couple dates is the kiss of death. At first I refused to co-sign on to that idea. I felt I should be allowed to be me, be who
How come you always find yourself involved with a man who's already taken? Coincidence? Or are you subconsciously seeking them out?
The world must really believe women are a bunch of nincompoops. At least, everyone seems to enjoy implying we are. This week, I discovered TWITS (Teenage Women In their Thirties), a new term for women who shun marriage and kids in favor of a social life and personal freedom. Then Time posted a story about how the South Korean government in Seoul is painting parking spaces pink and repaving streets so high heels don’t get stuck in them, all in an effort to make working women happy. Then I read a headline from Reuters declaring, “Crisis pushes men to therapy, women to handbags.” The story suggested the economy is stopping men from buying luxury items like watches, while women are scampering through Louis Vuitton and Hermes boutiques like kids in the candy aisle at Walmart.
On the rebound
THE REASON WE DON'T GET IT
There are some pretty consistent reasons among men why they dump their girlfriends. Let's look at what some women do to end up being single again. Of course, this doesn't fit every instance of a breakup, and this doesn't apply to every woman, but a lot of guys tend to come up with the same reasons. After all, it can't ALWAYS be something that the guys did....could it?
A guy asked me recently for guidance in his romantic life and an answer to the burning question: "what do women want?" He, like many men, initially felt confident about their belief that they had what women SHOULD want. However, after a few years went by with no success, he and others came to the realization that they didn’t understand beans about women or what we want! Here is my answer to his question.
Sometimes our advice can have double standards for ourselves why is it easier to tell everyone else the right thing to do but we can't tell our selves the truth of what we really think?