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Life after divorce - single moms

Life after divorce - single moms

A ferrytale love, that everyone looked up to. A love that I once had dreamed for and though could not really exist. This was my life 12 years ago. I had it all, everything I could of ever asked for. A man I loved, admired and respected. Handsome, funny and successful. We had everything in common and wanted the same things in life. Together we conquered problems, worked, traveled and enjoyed each other. We build our dream home and started a family. I had to pinch myself at times and thank God for all he had given me. Sometime around the 7th yr. of this beautiful time, while everything was perfect, he began to pull away. He began to play video games and started acting like a kid. For the next 6 months I felt it was stress or maybe a face he was going through. One night a week before Christmas, as we were getting ready for bed, he turned over to me and casually said he wanted to sell our home and get a divorce. I layed there in shock and denial. I thought it was a joke and never asked why, he said he didn't feel the same and we were too different. 3 yrs. later I am the one raising our boy while he lives a perfect life with a 29 yr. old. Free of care and worries. I often miss the company of my best friend, and can't stay mad at him. I have secluded myself and refuse to date or even concider it. I'm terrified to have someone get too close and hurting my child and myself. I've given up on love and don't know who I am anymore. I just turned 40 and feel like I need a new beginning and discover the real me. It just feels like a rollercoaster of emotions that I don't know where to even begin.

Life after divorce - single moms

Life after divorce - single moms

A ferrytale love, that everyone looked up to. A love that I once had dreamed for and though could not really exist. This was my life 12 years ago. I had it all, everything I could of ever asked for. A man I loved, admired and respected. Handsome, funny and successful. We had everything in common and wanted the same things in life. Together we conquered problems, worked, traveled and enjoyed each other. We build our dream home and started a family. I had to pinch myself at times and thank God for all he had given me. Sometime around the 7th yr. of this beautiful time, while everything was perfect, he began to pull away. He began to play video games and started acting like a kid. For the next 6 months I felt it was stress or maybe a face he was going through. One night a week before Christmas, as we were getting ready for bed, he turned over to me and casually said he wanted to sell our home and get a divorce. I layed there in shock and denial. I thought it was a joke and never asked why, he said he didn't feel the same and we were too different. 3 yrs. later I am the one raising our boy while he lives a perfect life with a 29 yr. old. Free of care and worries. I often miss the company of my best friend, and can't stay mad at him. I have secluded myself and refuse to date or even concider it. I'm terrified to have someone get too close and hurting my child and myself. I've given up on love and don't know who I am anymore. I just turned 40 and feel like I need a new beginning and discover the real me. It just feels like a rollercoaster of emotions that I don't know where to even begin.

Love, an Inner Connection

Love, an Inner Connection

A guy sitting next to me on the bus the other day kept looking over my shoulder to check out the book on my lap.  When I stuffed it in my bag, he asked, “what are you reading?” Slightly embarrassed, I told him, “it’s called, Love, an Inner Connection.” “What’s it about?” Self-help books and pseudo-spiritual tomes I’ve always considered hokey.  Human beings are fantastically complicated, a lifetime isn’t long enough to discover all the nooks and crannies in one person’s psyche.  Merge two of these creatures in a relationship and they’d need at least a couple centuries to figure one another out.  For every self-help “rule” about relating, you’ll find a thousand situations that break it. So, when a friend suggested Love, an Inner Connection, my first reaction was to gag.  But since the book’s based in Jungian psychology and ancient Chinese philosophy, I gave it a whirl. Here’s the gist: there’s the “essential” self and the ego.  The