What not to do...
The whole planet was dancing this weekend. One humongous, gyrating mass of human beings grooving together with Billie Jean, with Dirty Diana, with Ben. Fifty of the most triumphant and simultaneously excruciating years one human being can spend on this earth, ended in an instant on June 25th. Our beloved Michael Jackson is gone. We are shocked, we are heartbroken, but we ain’t gonna cry. When John Lennon passed, I was young so had to ask my stepdad what the big deal was. He said, “it would be like if Michael Jackson died.” Back then, I didn’t know how death made you see in a flash the moments between a person first coming into your world and when they leave forever, condensing those moments into an irretrievable period that reminds you of the brevity of life. I didn’t understand how the death of a young person snips away what could have been a glorious future, leaving you to mourn both what you’ve lost and what you’ll never have. Al
How to know when your endangering your friendship by doing something to hurt them.
How to overcome fear of intimacy. Everyone wants a closer relationship, but it takes work. You have to learn this: 1) Use your feelings,2) Self-awareness, and 3) Intimacy.
OK...a guy I know since childhood has a girlfriend. He hasn't propsed yet, but he has bought the ring. The problem is that he has realized (after almost two years) that he loves her, but isn't in love with her. Even bigger than that: he thinks he still has feelings for his ex, who, by his own admission, wasn't good for him at all. I've tried telling him to let her go, since she is more committed to the relationship than he is. He won't, though, because he knows that she's a good woman. I've tried to point out how he's really not being fair to her, since he knows that he doesn't feel the same as she does, and he is hiding where his true feelings really lie. Still, no luck. What would you tell him?
It seems to me that one of the biggest problems that people have in relationships is starting one that isn't healthy to begin with. Take a minute and think about what it is that you want, and what it is that you're looking for. In other words, STOP before you go too far. I also think people should LOOK at what's presented to them. Sometimes, people go ahead with a relationship when there is already some negative writing on the wall. There are some things that you have to take at face value when it's right in front of your face. Third: LISTEN to that voice that tells you to slow down. If something doesn't feel right, don't go forward until you can address your feelings.
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Lying and forgiving
What if you're 51, still have the body you had in your 20's and want to date again after being alone and single for at least ten years?