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STOP FAKING IT, JUST HAVE ONE

STOP FAKING IT, JUST HAVE ONE

My new mission is to get one bullet into the hands of every woman in the U.S. I think it's time for women to stop faking it and to just have one! HTTP://WWW.FREESILVERBULLET.COM is my new website that describes 13 Ways to Use the Silver Bullet.

IS IT WORTH IT?

IS IT WORTH IT?

ME AND MY BABY'S FATHER IS NOT TOGETHER BUT WE ARE STILL HAVING SEX. WE DO NOT HAVE GREAT COMMUNICATION  BECAUSE WE ALWAYS END UP ARGUING.WE TRY NOT TO ARGUE BUT HE HAS A VERY DEMANDING WAY OF PUTTING THINGS. WE DO NOT GO OUT ON DATES OR ANYTHING AND I THINK ITS BECAUSE HE IS EMBARRASED OF ME. I HAVE MET HIS IMMEDIATE FAMILY BUT NO ONE OUTSIDE OF THAT. HE NEVER ASKS ME TO GO ANYWHERE WITH HIM OR INCLUDE ME ON OUTINGS WITH THEM EVEN WHEN WE WAS TOGETHER. I WAS TRYING TI FIGURE RATHER OR NOT IS IT WORTH TRYING TO WORK THINGS OUT BECAUSE WE HAVE A CHILD TOGETHER AND I STILL LOVE HIM BUT HE JUST HAVE CERTAIN WAYS OF PUTTING THINGS AND IS MEAN (HE IS TO EVERYBODY). I THINK HE IS ALSO UNATTRACTED TO ME BECAUSE I GAIN 50 POUNDS WHILE PREGNANT WITH OUR CHILD. I WANT TO KNOW IS IT WORTH TRYING TO WORK THINGS OUT?

Real Life: What Made Me Cheat

Real Life: What Made Me Cheat

"I believe the lack is in the cheater. It is not the marriage or the spouse. There is a hole in the cheater and that is their responsibility to fill or ask for what is needed. There is never a reason to commit adultery. How abut leaving, how about honesty with the self and the spouse? How about vows, communication? The same steps can be taken without the affair. ie. getting needs met. The action is not taking responsibility for oneself. Insight and personal growth is without the cheating and profound hurt for all which follows. The pain never goes away entirely. Just say NO, like and adult." -kwd (Anonymous user)

YOUNG WOMEN PREYING ON OLDER MEN

YOUNG WOMEN PREYING ON OLDER MEN

EVERY SITE I'M ON GET HIT ON BY YOUNGER UNDER 30 WOMAN IN THE MAJORITY IS THERE ANY REAL REASON OTHER THAN FINANCIAL BY MARRAGE OR PAYING TO WATCH THIER VIDEO SITE, TAGGED BEING THE WORST! SEEMS TO BE AN EPIDEMIC.

Do cheaters deserve second chances?

Do cheaters deserve second chances?

I've been pondering the questions, "Does anyone deserve a second chance?" and "Is cheating worth breaking up over?" for quite some time, and I'd like to take the opportunity to address both of those questions. All women know that there has been some man that you've given a second chance, and a third, a fourth, a fifth...and so on. However, does anyone really deserve a second chance or when we pass out these "get out of jail free" cards are we really only prolonging the inevitable? Should we simply move on the first time that we break up? When and how does someone deserve a second chance? The biggest issues are always cheating and trust. (Usually in that order.) If someone cheats on you (or has an affair, whatever terminology you prefer) does he or she deserve a second chance? Should you break it off?

The "Other Woman" shares advice

The "Other Woman" shares advice

I just finished reading a blog post discussing the issue as to whether or not the "other woman" should apologize when an affair or cheater is exposed. The arguement was that the "other woman" should apologize for everything that she did, and several of the comments conveyed that opinion. However, I have an entirely different attitude and opinion on the subject matter. Why should the "other woman" apologize? She isn't sorry for anything. You only apologize when you're truly sorry for your actions, and in these situations the "other woman" is never sorry for what she did. Only on rare occasions does the "other woman" not know that the man is married, and in that case, I suppose that an apology would be in the works. However, when the "other woman" knows that the man is married, she knows what she's getting into, it's no secret, therefore, there is no sense in apologizing for something that you do not regret.