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Do You Want To Change Your Man?

Do You Want To Change Your Man?

A man will change when he is willing and ready. No matter how much you nag him, fight him, or try to reason with him, he won’t change unless he’s ready. Understand that you have no control over his thoughts, actions, and beliefs; he is his own person, just as you are yours.

Are You Getting Enough “Quality Time”?

Are You Getting Enough “Quality Time”?

Pinkee here~ I know “quality time” is a cliche that people make a lot of jokes about, but I’ve recently rediscovered how important it is to a relationship. I noticed I was getting more critical of my partner for what seemed like the little stuff.

 my dating Dilemma

my dating Dilemma

This post will tell you a little about me. first of all, my name is Deanna, and I live in dull ol' Minnesota. I am a 31 year old African American female. I stumbled upon this site by accident, but I am very glad i did. I am not in an interracial relationship, but I have in the past.  I am one of those people who find themselves naturally attracted to other races. I do not porposly seek out guys of different races, it just sort of happens that way. What has prevented me from activly persuing the men I am interested in. My family. Well, my sister" Alicia" mainly. She is the most close-minded, racist person I know. You know those black women who will opely sneer or comment when they see a black man out with a white girl, that's my sister. totally embarassing. my youngest sister "Tori" has dated white men, and had to endure all sorts of horrible comments from Alicia, and even still hears them when referred to her frienship with an Asian boy she knows.  

Lets Talk About You Cheating On Me

Lets Talk About You Cheating On Me

Getting cheated on is always unpleasant. Despite how much you may or may not like your girlfriend, it still hurts to know you were taken advantage of. Even having the suspicions that someone is cheating on you is terrible and is something that should be dealt with right away. However, how do you approach your partner when you suspect that they’re cheating on you or thinking about cheating? I’ve been lucky in my life and have never had to have this conversation but I have thought about it extensively to see how I would go about bridging the subject. The first thing I would do is try to integrate myself more in my girlfriends life. I would try and take her more places she wants to go to and go out with her friends. If she is resistant to that idea and you already have a suspicion it might be a good time to ask. After that I would have an honest discussion with her regarding cheating and how you

Don't believe the hype, keep it real

Get to know yourself first, know who you are and what is it you are for in life, learn ( not) to expect too much to soon from others, and if you're receiving what it is that you're looking for right off? don't believe the hype.

It's official

It's official

It's officially over, I think! We haven't spoken in almost 2 weeks... it was so hard at first, but with every passing day, I'm not thinking about him as I was on day one. Keeping myself busy and concentrating on what is important to me has really helped. Although secretly, I hope that he comes with his tail tucked in between his legs asking me to take him back! wish me luck:)