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Trying a new online dating site

Trying a new online dating site

I've done online dating on and off for a few years, and because I live in a relatively small city, selection is limited. I'm always on the lookout for another set of prospective dates so when my friend told me about all the people she saw on the website Plenty of Fish, I had to try it. In a couple of days I probably received 20 emails, all from people I didn't want to write back, either because they couldn't write well enough for me to believe they'd passed 5th grade, or because they were more than 10 or 15 years older than I am...or because they said they were free most mornings and wanted to have some fun. I wonder, is it likely that a PhD student who says she is looking for a long term relationship (they make you specify) would want to date a 60 year old man who can't spell or hook up with a married guy two towns over for pre-lunch sex? And yet, I've sent about six emails myself, but only received one reply from someone who didn't write me back after that. I didn't think I was contacting people who would be repulsed to receive an email from me, but apparently I'm off the mark. It just seems odd to me that we can't do better. I know who's in my league in real life. Is it just that everyone takes online dating so casually that it doesn't really matter if you let a few chances go by, or if you make a few hundred passes that don't go anywhere? Is it that with all the choices, we all assume we can do better than we can? Or is it just that in my city, there are so few decent single guys in their 30s that my standards are too high? I'm pretty casual about this myself, and I'm not trying as hard as I could, but I'm still surprised that no one I would date has contacted me, and no one I have contacted would date me... How can we be so off the mark?

Sleep May Affect Your Relationships

Sleep May Affect Your Relationships

Married women sleep better than those who are single? Apparently it’s true, according to an 8 year study released in June by The Pittsburgh School of Medicine, which found that women who are in good marriages get better quality zzz’s than those who spend their nights in bed alone.

Owner of a Lonely Heart

Owner of a Lonely Heart

My German friend Sandra recently met a man who she’s seen twice in three months.  After their first date, she was certain he was the one.  When the guy didn’t follow up after the second date with an invitation for a third, she texted him incessantly.  She showed up at the school where he works.  She drove from <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" />Hamburg to Berlin, a four-hour journey, allegedly to visit her sister.  After the man said he wasn’t in town when she phoned to tell him she was there, she rode her sister’s bike around his neighborhood for an hour hoping to run into him.  The guy finally gave her the boot when his roommate claimed to have seen Sandra peeking through their curtains, an accusation she firmly denies.  <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

ROAD TRIP!

ROAD TRIP!

A newly married couple is going to blog about a month long road trip cross country!

New Math for Sexual Accounting

New Math for Sexual Accounting

Trying to figure out how many guys you've had sex with? It's not as simple as addition. Apply the principles of new math for get your true number.

(Mis)adventures in Dating a Clown

Here's my dirty secret. I once dated a clown. In my defense, I didn't know he was gaga about greasepaint when I accepted his invitation to dinner. It will take serious deprogramming to forget all that he tried to teach me.