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Does Size Really Matter?

Well, guys, finally you have it. Someone who is willing to tell you the truth. I myself have heard Dr. Ruth say that size doesn’t matter. I’m not sure where she gets her information, but, truly, (and you do want to know the truth, don’t you?), it DOES matter.

Men and Strip Clubs

As an exotic dancer and a woman with a male partner, I really can’t understand it. I meet guys at the strip club all the time that either lie to their partners about where they are, or just lie by omission. I get it. You don’t want to cause a big argument, which will probably result in you getting less sex than you’re already getting, right?

Trying a new online dating site

Trying a new online dating site

I've done online dating on and off for a few years, and because I live in a relatively small city, selection is limited. I'm always on the lookout for another set of prospective dates so when my friend told me about all the people she saw on the website Plenty of Fish, I had to try it. In a couple of days I probably received 20 emails, all from people I didn't want to write back, either because they couldn't write well enough for me to believe they'd passed 5th grade, or because they were more than 10 or 15 years older than I am...or because they said they were free most mornings and wanted to have some fun. I wonder, is it likely that a PhD student who says she is looking for a long term relationship (they make you specify) would want to date a 60 year old man who can't spell or hook up with a married guy two towns over for pre-lunch sex? And yet, I've sent about six emails myself, but only received one reply from someone who didn't write me back after that. I didn't think I was contacting people who would be repulsed to receive an email from me, but apparently I'm off the mark. It just seems odd to me that we can't do better. I know who's in my league in real life. Is it just that everyone takes online dating so casually that it doesn't really matter if you let a few chances go by, or if you make a few hundred passes that don't go anywhere? Is it that with all the choices, we all assume we can do better than we can? Or is it just that in my city, there are so few decent single guys in their 30s that my standards are too high? I'm pretty casual about this myself, and I'm not trying as hard as I could, but I'm still surprised that no one I would date has contacted me, and no one I have contacted would date me... How can we be so off the mark?

Sleep May Affect Your Relationships

Sleep May Affect Your Relationships

Married women sleep better than those who are single? Apparently it’s true, according to an 8 year study released in June by The Pittsburgh School of Medicine, which found that women who are in good marriages get better quality zzz’s than those who spend their nights in bed alone.