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Why Men Like Porn

Why Men Like Porn

The other day a guy friend and I were talking about porn. Yes, porn. He said to me, "Hey, you're the Doc, but really, I don't understand what all the fuss is about. Men like porn. Why do women freak out so much when they watch it?" I didnt quite know where he was going with this conversation, so I just stared at him, with my mouth hanging open. He continued, taking that as a sign that I was listening intently to what he had to say. "Its really not that complicated," he said. "I like porn just like I love my dog. Porn is always waiting for me when I come home at night. It doesnt ask anything of me, and it doesnt talk back. It has no demands, and its always smiling. It always seems to be happy to see me." I tried to pick my chin up off the floor. "Yes, but," I began, "Does it keep you warm at night?" "No, he said," "But I have my dog for that." "So," I smiled, "This is why you arent married, correct?" "Well, yeah." He sighed. "I guess I just havent met anyone I like as much as I like my dog. And by the way, if I meet the right woman, I am totally willing to give up the porn. But not the dog."

Should You Stay or Should You Go?

Should You Stay or Should You Go?

This blog is for men and women who have been in a relationship for a long time—say ten years or more. It’s gotten stale, or worse, and you’re trying to decide what to do. Here’s the thing: your relationship didn’t get bad overnight. It’s been a long time coming, and there have been signs along every step of the way. But inertia is a very powerful force. Most people would rather be moderately miserable than do the work needed to be outrageously happy.