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Five Steps for Navigating Arguments

Five Steps for Navigating Arguments

Lila here~ One of the dynamics that plays out with long term relationships is that you get into arguments.  And not just any kind of arguments, but the kind that push every last button you have.  The fight may begin innocently enough, but it escalates to the point where you feel totally unsafe around your partner.

More Drama Games

More Drama Games

  Pinkee here again~ Last week I was talking about some games people play on what I call The Triangle, where all drama occurs.  This week is a continuation of that.  Below is a list of more “games” that may sound familiar and how to avoid them: 1.  I am Your Master.  In this game, you are the Victim and she is the Villain.  If you want to do something, such as go out with the guys, you have to ask her permission, as if you’re a child.  And, if you don’t, or even if you do and she says yes but doesn’t m

So, Where’s This Going?

So, Where’s This Going?

Nothing worse then when that question rears its ugly head. Usually because if you have to ask this question in the first place chances are you already know the answer, and it’s not good. Why? It’s simple really. Or at least according to a guy friend who once told me that a man either wants to be with you or he doesn’t. There is no grey area. So if he likes you that question never comes up because he won’t risk losing you to someone else.

Choosing the Perfect Gift for a Man

Choosing the Perfect Gift for a Man

Thanks to the help of several thousand women, I teach men how to understand, appreciate, and get along with women through telephone coaching, an online forum, newsletters, blog posts, etc., and a lot of women subscribe because I also teach men how to be men so that they don't end up boring their wife by sliding into the girlfriend role or even worse, engaging her maternal drive.

Tombstone for love

9 Deadly Divorce Mistakes Not To Make

The great American philosopher, Yogi Berra, once said, “Be careful, you don’t want to make the wrong mistake.” Nowhere is that more true than in the area of divorce advice. Yogi also said, “90% of this game is half mental.” Also true if you are contemplating, or involved in, a divorce. Almost always, the mindset of the people involved in the divorce is what will eventually dictate the length, complexity and difficulty of the action. If you want to end your marriage as cheaply and as painlessly as possible, do yourself a favor and heed well this advice.

How To Get A Divorce

How To Get A Divorce

Most who decide to divorce make the mistake of not familiarizing themselves with exactly what that means legally. Emotions rule our decision to divorce but legality rules what will happen once the decision to divorce is made. United States Divorce Laws I urge you to study the divorce laws of your state. To learn what the divorce process is like in your state and to arm yourself with the knowledge needed to protect yourself during the legal divorce process.

Have Less Holiday Financial Stress

Have Less Holiday Financial Stress

Does holiday shopping & spending stress you out? A few years ago I stopped doing the holidays. My corporate job had me on a plane every 3 to 4 days. My daily work hours were in the double-digits, and the mere thought of picking out - let alone sending - holiday cards was enough to throw me into tears. Shopping for presents... forgetaboutit. I didn't have the emotional energy to face the crowds and stores.

Gingerbread couple

Holiday Love Advice: Treat Your Man Like A Christmas Cookie

So, he's cute...kind of crunchy and exciting on the outside like when you two go to parties. Yet, when you're alone, he actually has a delicious little soft spot that's barely more childlike than it is poetic. You'd love to smother him in kisses every morning, but you know that would probably just make you look needy and overbearing, so how do you show him that you want him to stay without chasing him away? If you stay too far away, he's too cute, sociable and funny to not get scooped up by somebody else. If you jump ahead of yourself and stake a claim that he's not into dealing with, you could send him running. Here's my common knowledge on what makes a gingerbread man want to be simply your man:

Texting Your Mistress or Other Guy For That Affair

Texting Your Mistress or Other Guy For That Affair

"Text messaging is an incredible new way to communicate with others. Every so often though, you get a text that leaves you scratching your head. Recently I got a text from my exe asking me to hang out, and when I said I couldn’t hang out the day she wanted and instead offered an alternative, she said no but said that her boyfriend was going away for two weeks and that then shed be all mine. That led to me to wonder how often people are using discreet text messages to schedule affairs while their significant others are away.