Hi. I am Debra Gordy, Spiritual Healing Intuitive, Flourish Relationship Coach, and author of the forth-coming book Cinderella Wisdom: A Woman’s Journey of Spiritual Healing to the Marriage of Her Dreams. For over twenty-five years, I have been guiding women in healing from divorce, and creating the marriages of their dreams – in the real world.
I have done it! Look out it is a recipe for disaster. When a person has recently broke up with a significant other meaning a long term committed relationship. Wounds are fresh your whole world seems to be caving in. You will have to deal with the lost of someone you once shared your waking hours with and,now they are gone. Your sheets are cold even on hot smothering nights. You may have to cook, clean, maybe even drink alone. Stop put the brakes on before beginning another relationship soon out of lonliness and despair.
Originially published on As We Write It Somewhere between the point where it ended and that point in my life where I knew I had to leave New Jersey, Sasha dragged me to Atlantic City. We walked around, we talked, we saw a fortune teller. Who in five minutes looked at me with tears in her eyes and told me that no one deserves to be as heart broken as I was. She took my hand and told me about my Bad Love...about Matt, only she referred to him as a soul mate connection and that that love had changed me forever.
“How did I get so lucky?” That is the mantra that continues to go through my mind over and over and over again… all day and all night. You see, what I teach… whether it be how to speak to people, how to conduct a therapy session, how to make sales, how to lose weight, etc… is not a set of tools or steps. What I teach is a synthesis of my real life experiences, what I have learned by screwing up over the years, proven skills, solid theories, and techniques that work without explanation.
Stop dressing for the competition:Women love to dress for women! We worry so much about the detail and the price, and the fabric of what we are wearing! Men are so simple, too simple in fact! They don't get those fashion choices. The more simple your outfit, the more he can see YOU, not your Marc Jacobs dress.
Who says that when you get old you have to "act" like an old person. Life is too short to go gracefully into that good night or whatever the heck that saying is. Life is about living and just because you're aging, it does not mean you have to grab a rocking chair and park yourself on the front porch and watch the young whippersnappers have all the fun. Aging doesn't mean that your sex life becomes a funeral pyre either (only an older person will understand that reference).
Dear Future Lover, In case you do not know this by the time you are reading this, I feel the need to tell you that I go through periods of time where I am a hot mess. Like this morning for example, as I stumbled bleery eyed to the bathroom. You would have laughed if you had seen my pajamas bottoms get stuck mid-thigh. And then pointed and laughed as I became increasingly frustrated that they would not come off as I tried to get them off with my toe, because I was too sleepy to bend down like all normal people and remove them.
Plentyoffish.com or Pof.com is a free online dating site. I was on it for about two and a half weeks. Anytime, I signed onto it, I was just inundated with emails from members that were quite eager to meet someone...anyone. That's the feeling I got from anyone on there that I emailed for awhile. Desperation. Clear and distinct, desperation. I am not saying everyone on there is, I mean, I was on there and I am anything but. However, the men I did get contacted by were desperate and it really began to border on creepy before I finally deleted my account entirely.
Whether you are coupled or single, here are a few resolutions to get your “Year of Pleasure” started. First of all, do some redecorating. Look around your bedroom – does this room make you feel sensual and sexy? If not, it’s time to spruce things up. Our surroundings can have a significant impact on how we feel. Think about it – we spend time in nature or go to a house of worship to feel connected to something greater than ourselves. In contrast, when we want to let loose and have fun, we go to a bar.
"So I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now, we are in our last year of college. He's an amazing guy and we have a great relationship. A couple weeks ago, I was drunk at a party and let myself cheat on him, I can't explain why. My boyfriend is good in bed, but his package is just barley around 5 inches i think. The guy i slept with was huge, I'd say at least 8 or 9 inches, and it felt soooo amazingly good. I've never had an orgasm like that before. Now I don't know what to do. I love my boyfriend, but I'm just not always satisfied now.