Dear Brit and Catherine, I just went through a breakup. I was a mess, the only sites that could really help were sites for people who are grieving. Even though they were grieving a death, what they said really helped me. I know you can’t compare breakups to someone dying, but I wonder if a breakup could still cause grief? “Mary Ann” (not her real name) Dear “Mary Ann”
Communication is vital right now. It is important for you and your husband to talk about how you are both feeling, why you both feel the affair happened, whether or not he wants to save the marriage and what the two of you are going to do to get your marriage on the right path. Communication means listening and talking. I mean listening, while your husband is talking to you turn your brain off, stop assuming you know what he is going to say, don't sit there and think about a response to what he is saying... actually listen, hear what he is saying to you.
First let me state right up front I am GAY... that out of the way. I have helped more women bring life into a man in long term relationships. A few of them knock on my door (the men) no they are not closeted, just plain horny. Because I am willing to find all the pleasure spots on his body. The FIRST thing you should do is buy a book called "What every straight woman should know about sex; by a gay man." You may have to special order it,,IT'S WORTH THE WAIT!!!
Life is always giving us opportunities to grow and evolve, right? Ever the introspective one, I’m always attempting to look within, challenge my beliefs systems, and heal my wounds by being radically honest and self-aware. I had the opportunity recently to connect intimately with a potential partner. For several reasons, I decided that it was going to be several months before we had sex. Of course, there were times when I was hot and bothered and I rationalized how several weeks rather than months would be sufficient for our self-imposed abstinence.
This blog is to allow all Single females that are good catches that haven't been caught by a good man (yet) vent!!!!
Dear Dr. Romance: I saw your article "Guidelines for Improving the Odds to a New Relationship with your Ex" in divorce360.com Can this really happen? My wife is divorcing me because she has fallen out of love with me. We aren't divorced yet but are in the process by going to a mediator. It's something I do not want to happen. We have two beautiful kids together.
Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a sixty something divorced man, I have not had a relationship for a long time. Last year, I met a wonderful lady from Colombia, who is a little bit younger, well educated and has a green card here. She has taken me out of my lonelines and made me feel alive again. Her late husband was killed by the guerrilla in Colombia. She has told me how wonderful he was and how much they love each other and that is fine.
Nothing gets people riled up like a question with no real objective answer. YourTango user DoodleBug got the community talking recently when she posted the Ask YourTango question "What makes an encounter an affair?"
Although you might be going hot and heavy in your relationship, the thought of planning a special Valentine’s Day could have you sweating bullets. February is the month when love is in the air and cupid’s arrow is looking to tackle the unwary, but just because the love bug is tugging at your heartstrings doesn’t mean you have the foggiest notion of how to express your feelings in a new and interesting way.