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Three Affective Qualities that Keep Relationships Together

Three Affective Qualities that Keep Relationships Together

There are three affective qualities that need to be present and visible for a relationship to last, namely admiration, respect and trust. 1. Admiration: If you are going to share a major part of your life with another person, the other person must have some lasting qualities that you truly admire. It is less important what exactly these admirable qualities are. If the admiration is genuine, it will show in your attitude towards them. They will feel admired. Feeling admired feels great. They will want to stick around.

Why are first impressions so important?

Why are first impressions so important?

As you take the dog out for a walk, you come across your new neighbor walking his dog. He is attractive, smart and single. You stop for a brief chat. Unfortunately, it’s not your lucky day. You have just been laid off from work and haven’t had a shower for almost two days, your hair looks like you just got out of bed, and you smell like old garlic. “I don’t normally look this way … or smell this way”, you say without thinking. “What?”, Hottie says, “Oh… that’s OK”

Are we attracted to people who look like us?

Are we attracted to people who look like us?

According to researchers reporting in the July 28, 2010 issue of Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, we are attracted to people who resemble our parents or ourselves. In one study subjects were shown pictures of strangers which were preceded by a short glimpse of either their opposite-sex parent or a stranger. Subjects exposed to a short glimpse of their parent before being exposed to the target picture were more likely to assign higher ratings of attractiveness to the person in the target picture.

Q&A: Can you die from a broken heart?

Q&A: Can you die from a broken heart?

Dear Dr. Brit and Catherine, Can you die from a broken heart? "Ava" (not her real name)   Dear “Ava”, Thank you for your note. That’s a very good question. The short answer is “yes”. You can indeed die from a broken heart. During a difficult breakup, the sudden death of a loved one or any other heartbreaking event, negative emotions take over our bodies.

Unique Gifts for Valentine’s Day

Unique Gifts for Valentine’s Day

You’ve done wine and roses, you’ve taken her to the fanciest restaurant in town, and the way her diet is going, you fear chocolates would be in poor taste. But that pretty much rules out all the standard stuff for Valentine's Day. So how do you come up with a romantic gesture that shows the woman you love just how much she means to you? Easy: go for a gift that is completely original and totally unexpected! Here are a few ideas you might want to consider.

MY BOYFRIEND SAYS HE LOVES ME...

MY BOYFRIEND SAYS HE LOVES ME...

A narcissist doesn't set out to hurt someone, because it's not about you, it will never be about you. You don't exist for them as a fully feeling and sentient (capable of having emotions) human being. They cannot properly assess your value as a person. You are only as good as the nectar of attention you can give them. No matter how great the quality, at some point they get bored. Then, often abruptly and inexplicable, it's all over. The narcissist is cold, uninterested and remote.

Q&A: Grief After Breakup

Q&A: Grief After Breakup

Dear Brit and Catherine, I just went through a breakup. I was a mess, the only sites that could really help were sites for people who are grieving. Even though they were grieving a death, what they said really helped me. I know you can’t compare breakups to someone dying, but I wonder if a breakup could still cause grief? “Mary Ann” (not her real name) Dear “Mary Ann”

Surviving Infidelity in Marriages

Surviving Infidelity in Marriages

Communication is vital right now. It is important for you and your husband to talk about how you are both feeling, why you both feel the affair happened, whether or not he wants to save the marriage and what the two of you are going to do to get your marriage on the right path. Communication means listening and talking. I mean listening, while your husband is talking to you turn your brain off, stop assuming you know what he is going to say, don't sit there and think about a response to what he is saying... actually listen, hear what he is saying to you.

boyfriend isnt turned on

boyfriend isnt turned on

First let me state right up front I am GAY... that out of the way. I have helped more women bring life into a man in long term relationships. A few of them knock on my door (the men) no they are not closeted, just plain horny. Because I am willing to find all the pleasure spots on his body. The FIRST thing you should do is buy a book called "What every straight woman should know about sex; by a gay man." You may have to special order it,,IT'S WORTH THE WAIT!!!