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How am i supposed to feel?

How am i supposed to feel?

the other day i chatted with an X online.  He was telling me about ho this was his last weekend as a "single man" .. i was really not interested in what he had to say at that moment but i said i was happy for him and that led to something i had no idea was coming. See we havent dated for the past 2years, we met twice in this time, once to try work it out (or so i thought) and the other time to "talk". and all this time we both acknowledged that we still have feelings for each other and we still have chemistry which is weird btw.

It's All About Love

It's All About Love

No it’s not Valentines yet. I was invited to speak on a radio show just a few days ago. On air we talked a lot about trauma, how it happens, and what to do about it. We talked about how trauma is such a taboo in our society, yet it is everywhere and a lot of people think that being abused is a part of life. We asked the question, “Why is it that people stay in relationships that aren’t good for them and why is it that they choose to be treated badly over being alone?” The answer that I have come to is that it is all about love.

Why Occupy Wall Street When you can Occupy Yourself?

Why Occupy Wall Street When you can Occupy Yourself?

Oftentimes when we start with a new program or follow a new “healing”path, it is because we want our life to get better, we want it to get easier, and we want to feel better. But here is the thing, when you actually start transforming and shifting, it seems that life gets worse for a while. It’s kind of what you are seeing happening in the world today. People lose their jobs, people lose their houses and so on. I am sure you have noticed that too.

A Woman's Way to Enlightenment

A Woman's Way to Enlightenment

I have two small children, a husband, a household and my work. I do want to connect with Source (or whatever you call that higher part that governs the Universe) and I do want to be the best I can be. I do want to be enlightened. Many spiritual teachers suggest that a true state of divine connectedness can only be attained through stilling your mind, sitting quietly and by detachment from the world. Well, that has not been working for me. And I am pretty sure it hasn’t been working for you, either.

A Different View on Trauma

A Different View on Trauma

In the Western World, trauma is mostly seen as psychological impact but there is actually a different view on trauma that not many people do not know about or understand. One of the most common approaches to healing trauma is to have someone to talk to so that you can be heard and feel understood and supported. That is very important because it can make you feel better and enable you to move on, however, it does not clear out your trauma.

What if I Wasn't Traumatized but Another Family Member was?

What if I Wasn't Traumatized but Another Family Member was?

I have gotten questions recently that I thought might apply to many of you, so I decided to share them: “Can my relationship problems come from someone else in my family being abused?” Also, “ Can my relationship problems stem from me being abused in a past life?” My answer to both of these questions is “yes.” Relationship problems frequently come from being the child of a parent that had a traumatic fate.

Stop Shooting the Messenger

Stop Shooting the Messenger

You might have heard somebody tell you recently: “Don’t shoot the messenger”. The sentence has become kind of a catch phrase, but what does it really mean? In short, it means that you shouldn’t react. That when something is “triggering” you, upsetting you, you shouldn’t act out or lose it. This is easier said then done (as we all know!) This article will take a look at how you can stop yourself from reacting, and how you can create more peace in your life (Stop shooting the messenger).

Did You Know That It is Integration That You Are After?

Did You Know That It is Integration That You Are After?

If you are anything like me, you probably have done a lot of “healing” work on your self. A few years ago, I was introduced to the concept of “integration”. I was invited to think in terms of integration instead of in terms of healing. It made a lot of sense to me, and brought profound changes in my life. I will share with you in this article how and why you can benefit from this mind shift. Healing connotes that there is something that needs fixing, and that something is wrong with you.

Nobody "Out There" Will Come and Save You

Nobody "Out There" Will Come and Save You

In my “toilet moment”,the moment that was my wake up call, I realized I wasn’t very far from death. I also realized that, up to that moment, I believed that someone “out there”, the therapists, the doctors and the healers were the experts. I had been hoping, praying even begging that one of them would figure out what was wrong with me. Then, they could fix me and make me all better.

Power, Roses and Play

Power, Roses and Play

How do these three words pertain to personal growth and a woman’s healing journey? Yesterday was Thanksgiving Day and, as the name suggests, we all should pause on that day and reflect on what we are grateful for. Not just reflect, but to truly feel the gratitude in our deepest core.