It’s that time again – the trick-or-treaters swarming the streets, the leftover candy you take to the office so you don’t gain five pounds before the holidays even begin, and the piles of pumpkins at the grocery store. Fun? Yeah, maybe. Well let’s turn that around. It’s time to make Halloween all about adult playtime!
One of my newest favorite tv shows is Snapped, on the Oxygen network. My sister turned me on to it. I was laid up with a cold on Sunday and came across a Snapped marathon while I was channel-surfing. Each episode is a profile of a murder case where the killer is a woman. Each year, approximately 16,000 people are murdered in the United States. Only 7% of the killers are female (FBI Uniform Crime Reporting Program). I'm assuming that since murder by a woman is so rare, this is why Snapped explores the crime and, more interestingly, the lives of the women who did the killing.
Each year, October 31st brings with it a chance to carve the face of KISS frontman Gene Simmons in your pumpkin, dress up as a sexy version of Jasmine from Aladdin, dance to the “Monster Mash” at a masquerade with your honey and, most importantly, stuff your face with as much sugary goodness as you can possibly muster. Even though you’ll most likely be clutching your aching stomach the next morning, Halloween and candy are inseparable, because you simply can’t have one without the other.
One of the challenges couples face is the need to spend time together in ways that are fresh, fun, and exciting. One of the challenges we face as individuals is the need to stay in shape, maintain our health and stay lean. Why not combine the two? Why can't you get fit and grow closer together as a couple at the same time? I see no reason why you can't. In fact, I know of quite a few ways in which you can burn fat, tone up, and have fun together. I want to share 5 of those ways with you here.
People, especially women, are almost always trying to hide behind a mask (usually multiple masks) in the beginning of a new relationship. They're afraid that if they begin to peel away at the first impression their guy got, he'll run screaming in the opposite direction at, what we women believe, is the horrendous truth underneath our mask. Essentially, underneath our masks lies the truth of who we really are (perfections and weaknesses) and doesn't every woman want to be loved for their true selves? It's all we ever hear. "I want him to like me for me".
the other day i chatted with an X online. He was telling me about ho this was his last weekend as a "single man" .. i was really not interested in what he had to say at that moment but i said i was happy for him and that led to something i had no idea was coming. See we havent dated for the past 2years, we met twice in this time, once to try work it out (or so i thought) and the other time to "talk". and all this time we both acknowledged that we still have feelings for each other and we still have chemistry which is weird btw.
No it’s not Valentines yet. I was invited to speak on a radio show just a few days ago. On air we talked a lot about trauma, how it happens, and what to do about it. We talked about how trauma is such a taboo in our society, yet it is everywhere and a lot of people think that being abused is a part of life. We asked the question, “Why is it that people stay in relationships that aren’t good for them and why is it that they choose to be treated badly over being alone?” The answer that I have come to is that it is all about love.
Oftentimes when we start with a new program or follow a new “healing”path, it is because we want our life to get better, we want it to get easier, and we want to feel better. But here is the thing, when you actually start transforming and shifting, it seems that life gets worse for a while. It’s kind of what you are seeing happening in the world today. People lose their jobs, people lose their houses and so on. I am sure you have noticed that too.
I have two small children, a husband, a household and my work. I do want to connect with Source (or whatever you call that higher part that governs the Universe) and I do want to be the best I can be. I do want to be enlightened. Many spiritual teachers suggest that a true state of divine connectedness can only be attained through stilling your mind, sitting quietly and by detachment from the world. Well, that has not been working for me. And I am pretty sure it hasn’t been working for you, either.
In the Western World, trauma is mostly seen as psychological impact but there is actually a different view on trauma that not many people do not know about or understand. One of the most common approaches to healing trauma is to have someone to talk to so that you can be heard and feel understood and supported. That is very important because it can make you feel better and enable you to move on, however, it does not clear out your trauma.