When a relationship hits a bump in the road, it can be hard to tell whether you can work around it or if it's just not possible. Our expert shares how to make the tough decision to mend or end your relationship.
COMMUNICATION IN RELATIONSHIPS
Welcome to my 7-Part Series, 7 Secrets To Mastering Communication SECRET #2 - Compassion “Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.” ~ Dalai Lama XIV Compassion means, “I understand and I get you.” It means I’m walking alongside you, not necessarily in your in your shoes because I cannot truly know what you are experiencing.
Compare what you can do today with a phone, computer or another electronic device with what was possible 5 years ago and you'll be amazed! From opposite ends of your city (or even further), you can coordinate with your partner about who will pick up the dry cleaning or where you want to go for dinner. The two of you can share about amusing or thought-provoking events from your day immediately after they happen. Communication has been made so easy....and so difficult.
Ever reflect on an argument and ask yourself, “What on earth was I thinking when I said that?!” Well, the field of social neuroscience is providing answers to help us understand our outbursts. Our brains have two almond-shaped masses called amygdalae that are in charge of processing our emotional reactions. The amygdalae regulate our fight or flight response, which was created as a survival mechanism to allow us to react quickly to stimuli before giving our rational brain time to interpret the stimuli. In critical situations, our amygdalae respond
I was posed a question which I find interesting. “Would you like to know if someone hit on me during the day?” Not in a “this is sexual harassment, I need you to beat this guy down,” kind of way, but in a “would something like that be too much information to share,” kind of way. The point of the question is essentially, “Are there some things we should not share within our relationship?”
Preventing infidelity may be as simple as — and this seems obvious — telling the truth. Peggy Vaughn, author of the Myth of Monogamy, says that in order for couples to avoid an affair, they first have to accept that it is natural and normal to be attracted to other people. And if you find yourself fantasizing about someone other than your spouse, you should tell. Telling your partner would mean being honest about your feelings — not using the specific details to hurt your spouse — but to be open and honest about your concerns before they turn into something more.
Question I have a great boyfriend, who is smart, funny, and cute. We get along really well, except for one problem - his job involves a lot of travel and there are times when he is on the road for months. I find his absences difficult to deal with (although when he returns, we seem to be fine again).
The best relationship advice I can give is about making the effort to truly understanding each other. Most of us want to be listened to and understood, but do we really listen to ourselves and to others? This is a real skill that can be learned and developed over time. It occurs most frequently and most effectively when we set time aside to really tune in to each other or, in meditation, to ourselves.
Have you ever looked forward to a chick-chat with a friend or been excited to open an email from a gal pal you look forward to hearing from only to get dumped on as if you are a garbage can for their troubles and complaints? A good friend conversation whether face-to-face, phone or email should leave you feeling positive, happy and supported as opposed to many that leave us feeling that with friends like that, who needs enemies.
Women often complain that it's hard to get a man to talk. Or, when they do sit down and talk with a man, that he gets resistant or argumentative, doesn't tell the full truth or just tells her whatever he thinks she wants to hear. Why does he do this? Often, it's because he's had bad experiences talking with you or other women and has developed some defense mechanisms to avoid further punishment.
Poems have been written about it. Songs have been sung about it. Researchers spend hours toiling in their labs trying to come up with a formula for it. However, the question has remained a mystery until now. We perpetually ask and wait with baited breath for the answer to the question, “How do we keep love alive?”
In political chambers throughout the country, including in our national Capitol, political leaders give annual addresses to talk about how we are doing and what challenges we need to face in the year ahead. Thinking about the highlights offered in the State of the Union tonight, there are similar categories that you could use to evaluate your union. How would you rate your marriage, domes
Rachel Bilson and 'Star Wars' star Hayden Christensen started dating in 2007, got engaged in 2008, broke up in 2010, then got back together. Phew. What's their relationship status now?
Are you faced with a man that doesn't really see the importance of Valentines Day? Maybe he sees it as an over-commercialized Hallmark holiday that's just placed into the calendar to squeeze money out of men and create high expectations for women. This makes it difficult for you to really ask for what it is you want on V-day for fear of being judged. So, what do you do if you are a woman that wants the flowers, chocolates, romantic dinner and the amazing V-day story to tell all your friends the next day?
Too many people go through their lives without saying how they feel, what they want and what they really think. They do so to keep the peace, to please or gain approval or because they’re worried they’ll lose the one they love if they don’t remain silent. Have you lost your voice?