How Do I Learn To Argue Like An Adult? [VIDEO]

If fighting with your spouse brings out the wounded teenager in you, Crystal Andrus can help.

Does fighting with your boyfriend or husband bring out the worst in you? When you get upset or angry, do you lash out like a rebellious teenager? Are you worried that you might eventually say or do something you will later regret? Good news: you're not alone. In this video, women's advocate, founder of the SWAT Institute and YourTango Expert Crystal Andrus offers advice about how to keep your inner-teenager in check when fighting with your significant other. Help! I Can't Get Over My Divorce [VIDEO]

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What Messages Are You Sending? [EXPERT]

The quality of your love life is directly tied to the messages you send

The quality of your love life is directly tied to the messages you send. These messages stem from your thoughts, beliefs, feelings and actions. If your thoughts, beliefs, feelings and actions are not congruent, you’ll send mixed messages. Sending mixed instead of clear messages guarantees a love relationship that is not sustainable — one fraught with frustration, disappointment and a superficial connection. A mixed message can look like this:

Mama boy?

My boyfriend broke our plans due to his mom

My boyfriend had plans to go to a celebration party for one of our friends. His mother called him and said one of his friends was moving out of state on Monday, this was a Saturday. He never told his mom that he had plans at 3pm and he was wanted to coming over to his moms at 1:30. He told me an hour would be plenty of time to visit and say goodbye.

Can A Compliment Improve Your Relationship? [EXPERT]

Who knew a simple compliment could improve a relationship?

Ever wonder if you can really change your partner? Well, screaming and yelling sure won't do it. In fact, he/she may become resentful. Just as with children, we need to be praised for the good things we do.

Talk Your Way To Better Sex [EXPERT]

YourTango's recent survey busts the myth that we fight about sex and money. Here's the real scoop!

It's considered common knowledge that the things people fight over the most are sex and money. Did you know that it's not true? A recent survey conducted by YourTango revealed that the number one reason people fight is because they don't feel appreciated by their partner. Communication issues ranked second. Personally, I think if you don't feel appreciated by your partner, chances are pretty high that you're not communicating well, either.

2 Relationship Lessons From Rush & Sandra [EXPERT]

A look at how relationships go bad, and what to do instead.

It seemed so promising in the beginning. They were both passionate about politics. They both felt it was important to engage in activism, to join the public debate. They wanted to be of service to their country. Granted, her education level was higher. He dropped out of college, she went to Law School. But they were both widely read and interested in what was happening, and an increasing number of women are now more educated than their men anyway.

4 Ways to Make a Request that Your Spouse WILL Hear

Are you tired of feeling like you're talking to a “brick wall” in your marriage?

“He never listens to me!” “She only hears what she wants to hear!” “It feels like I'm talking to myself all of the time!” Does it seem like your spouse tunes you out when you're talking to him or her? As clear and straightforward as you think you were with your request, your partner claims to have heard something else from you..or maybe even argues that you didn't say it at all.

Oh Baby It's Cold Inside

"Thaw" out your relationship and re-connect when your partner is cold and distant.

Brrrrr When temperatures drop and the weather gets icy and cold, it can be a great excuse to cuddle up with your love in front of a fire or in bed. How delicious to make love with your partner or just spoon under a big cozy blanket! How horrible when you and your partner are locked in conflict or frozen by hard feelings and resentments. When it's cold INSIDE your relationship, there is no fun, no passion and it can feel like there's no love either.

When Is It Okay to Get Pushy?

Push in ways that help you and your love move closer together.

Being pushy usually backfires in a love relationship or marriage. The image of the domineering, controlling man and also that of the harping, "pit bull" woman come to mind when we talk about being pushy. Nobody likes to feel pushed around. Pushiness tends to bring up reactions of defensiveness, emotionally shutting down and outright hostility.

How to Make a Request Your Partner Will REALLY Hear

Tired of feeling ignored? Get advice to make requests your partner will actually hear...

“YOU NEVER LISTEN TO ME!” Have you ever felt as if you're talking to a brick wall and you want to (or do) scream these words at your partner? It can be infuriating to have asked your partner to do something and then he or she not only fails to do what you've asked, it's as if you hadn't made the request at all. Your partner might look at you standing there, angry and red-faced, and insist that you didn't say that.

Is Technology Damaging Our Relationships? [EXPERT]

Keyboards, phones and instant messages, oh my! How these gadgets are really effecting our lives.

I can’t lie to you. I love technology. I do. The gadgets, the games and the advancements that make our lives so much easier are a dream come true. There is however, no sweet without the bitter and no appreciation without the pain. But before we get to ‘the pain,’ I couldn’t perch myself atop a soapbox, blasting the ramifications of these fantasy items without providing a balanced appraisal of just how wonderful these toys can be.