Why men and women really sweep stuff under the rug. It's time for communication spring cleaning!
May 3 is National Lumpy Rug Day which is basically means it' time to do some spring cleaning and get rid of a lot of your junk. Literally, the lumps in the rug usually come from the furniture that has been sitting around in the same place for ages but in close relationships, those lumps come from sweeping things under the rug.
Pretend like you and your ex-spouse are lifelong business partners, because you are.
It's simple to talk to an old flame when you don't have to look at him. So, an email relationship post-divorce is ideal. But when there are children involved in your relationship, keeping things civil between the two of you is even more paramount. Keeping the emails free of judgement, blame and arrogance is key to keeping a rift in your adult relationship from causing a rift in the one with your kids.
Are you guilty of being a conversation hijacker? You are if you're committing these errors!
Welcome back to 7 Secrets To Mastering Communication
SECRET #5 – Asking Questions
Asking questions is a major key to mastering communication. Yet, so often most conversations are a battle for air-time with one person ending up shutting down when the other has done what I call the one-upmanship stunt and taken over the topic. Whether it’s casual bantering or expressing important concerns, hijacking a conversation is rarely conducive to enhancing your relationships over time.
Ever reflect on an argument and ask yourself, “What on earth was I thinking when I said that?!”
Ever reflect on an argument and ask yourself, “What on earth was I thinking when I said that?!” Well, the field of social neuroscience is providing answers to help us understand our outbursts. Our brains have two almond-shaped masses called amygdalae that are in charge of processing our emotional reactions. The amygdalae regulate our fight or flight response, which was created as a survival mechanism to allow us to react quickly to stimuli before giving our rational brain time to interpret the stimuli. In critical situations, our amygdalae respond
How much sharing is too much? How to decide what to share with our mates.
I was posed a question which I find interesting. “Would you like to know if someone hit on me during the day?” Not in a “this is sexual harassment, I need you to beat this guy down,” kind of way, but in a “would something like that be too much information to share,” kind of way. The point of the question is essentially, “Are there some things we should not share within our relationship?”
How is cell phone texting working for you? Is it a benefit? Or is it causing relationship issues?
The topic of texting came up over dinner last week. There were five people at our table—two men and three women, ages 21 to 63.
All five of us agreed that texting has become part of our lives and is here to stay (even the ones like me who still can't respond very quickly). We agreed texting has some benefits:
My Boyfriend Travels A Lot - I Do Not Like The Absences - What Do I Do?
I have a great boyfriend, who is smart, funny, and cute. We get along really well, except for one problem - his job involves a lot of travel and there are times when he is on the road for months.
I find his absences difficult to deal with (although when he returns, we seem to be fine again).
The President's State of the Union is over – what would be part of yours if given about your union?
In political chambers throughout the country, including in our national Capitol, political leaders give annual addresses to talk about how we are doing and what challenges we need to face in the year ahead. Thinking about the highlights offered in the State of the Union tonight, there are similar categories that you could use to evaluate your union. How would you rate your marriage, domes
Despite the joy surrounding the legalization of gay marriage, one sobering statistic remains.
On November 6, 2012, Maine became the first state in the country to approve gay by voter referendum. Most same-sex couples celebrated the news. But, presented with the possibility of getting married, other gay couples began reacting in an unexpected way.
In any conflict we are used to fight or flight, but there is another way. Choose to be assertive.
Assertiveness-Getting What You Want
In the world today we are faced with many choices. We are all built with the instinct for fight or flight when faced with confrontation. But there is a third way--it is to speak up with an assertative voice about what we really want and need in life.